The relationship between daughter-in-law and mother-in-law has long been the subject of jokes and anecdotes. It is generally accepted that they will initially be tense and boil down to the struggle for the love of a man, who is one of them a son, and the other a husband. It seems that it will be much better to improve relations, simply because you are now one family and a mother-in-law - the woman who gave birth to and raised your husband and is brought by your grandmother to your children.
Instructions
Step 1
The easiest way to maintain a relationship is when you live with your husband and children apart from your parents. But even if this is not the case and you have to share one kitchen with your mother-in-law for two, try to establish an even and friendly relationship. The notorious "female solidarity" still exists and you need to turn in the eyes of your mother-in-law from her rival to her accomplice. Try right away, if you live as one family, unite with it, at least in words. When discussing something in family council or speaking, try to say “we” rather than “me” more often. For example: "It is necessary to purchase a washing machine, because Marya Ivanovna and I cannot wash by hand."
Step 2
No woman wants to feel aging and losing attractiveness. Give her gifts that emphasize that in your eyes she is not a grumpy old woman, but also an attractive woman. It can be a good perfume or an anti-aging cream. Even if you donate household appliances, emphasize that they will save your mother-in-law not only time, but also beautiful hands, for example.
Step 3
Find out about her hobbies and give her something that she will be truly happy with. If she is fond of floriculture, embroidery or knitting, then there are many opportunities to please her from the heart. A gift that was bought not by chance, especially for her, will always be pleasant and appreciated.
Step 4
Consult her often, consult and try not to interrupt, even if she says things you know well. Nobody forbids you to do exactly the opposite, but if, having done something commendable, you refer to her valuable advice and participation, then your mother-in-law's heart will begin to melt. Understand that you should not be stubborn and follow the principle on insignificant trifles, this will only annoy both of you and inflame the situation in the family. Give in, but always defend "your territory" on some fundamental issues.
Step 5
Feeling that no one encroaches on her authority, that she is reckoned with and appreciated and loved, that her interests are taken into account and her hobbies are remembered, your mother-in-law will gradually understand that there is no reason for confrontation.
