Some parents, guided by the principle "there is never much love", suppress their children not only with anxious care, but also with constant control and patronage. The reason for such overprotection (hyperprotection) can be various factors: fear of loneliness, a feeling of dissatisfaction in love, insecurity, distrust of the child, the desire for power, the repetition of the history of one's own childhood. However, this type of upbringing has many negative consequences for the development of the child.
Instructions
Step 1
Types of overprotection
1. Indulgent - the child is allowed anything and more. The child is placed in the "center of the universe", his comfort, health and well-being in the first place, and the interests of other family members are not taken into account. The child is not put forward any demands, prohibitions, punishments. Any whims of the kid are immediately fulfilled. Parents inspire the child that he is a genius, the best.
Of course, it will not be easy for such a child in kindergarten, and teachers at school will not turn a blind eye to the position of permissiveness. Peers, too, do not favor the spoiled. When the child fails to meet the parents' expectations, emotional disorders, complexes, and low self-esteem will follow.
Step 2
2. Demanding - nothing and never is allowed. The child is under constant supervision, parental control. He has many responsibilities in the home, in his studies, in various extracurricular activities. “You are obliged” - most often the child has to hear. The child must report to his parents about his slightest step and impeccably obey the requirements of adults.
Uncertainty in their abilities, lack of initiative, lack of their own position, isolation, limited communication with others. In adolescence, the child realizes the unfair treatment of his parents and begins to rebel against their authority.
Step 3
Parents be considerate by showing love and care for their children. It is your responsibility to educate, not break. Take care of your children!
