The sad divorce statistics are growing from year to year. Many children are brought up without a father, and the moment will surely come when the child begins to be interested in this fact. You need to be ready for this, because the formation of the child's self-esteem and worldview depends on how you explain the absence of a dad to him.
Instructions
Step 1
Prepare a truthful story in a form that the child can comprehend. It is better for him to learn the whole truth from his mother than from neighbors or other relatives. Do not reassure the child with stories that the father has left. Sooner or later, the whole truth will come to light, it will be a blow to the child's psyche. Children find it difficult to tolerate the deceptions of adults.
Step 2
Form a positive image of the father in the perception of the child. To do this, forgive your ex-husband and let go of all resentment towards him. Never say bad words about your father, no matter how much you have suffered from him, and do not allow your relatives and acquaintances to do so. This is your relationship and they do not apply to children. The father is as important to the child as the mother.
Step 3
Explain to him that you used to love each other and then the situation changed. It so happened, and it must be taken for granted. He left (to another city, lives with another woman, etc.), and he feels better. And you and the two feel good, because you love each other and will always be together. This will ease the baby's worries and be true. This is very important because children intuitively sense lies.
Step 4
Show by the example of other families (personal acquaintances or heroes of films) that the absence of a dad does not mean at all that the child will not grow up like everyone else. Your family is smaller than some of his acquaintances, but there is a lot of love, understanding and respect in it. And this is the most important thing in family relationships.
Step 5
And most importantly, always let your child understand that you love him very much. Tell him this often. Give your baby as much time as he needs. Surrounded by attention and care, he will feel fulfilled, and the absence of his father will not be perceived so sharply over time. The main thing is not to overdo it and do not indulge all his whims, otherwise you will bring up a spoiled and disobedient person.
