If parents, when asked about the upbringing of a child, say that there is never a lot of love, one should be wary and clarify what exactly the parents mean by the concept “there is never too much”. Maybe we are talking about overprotection?
What kind of overprotection can be?
Overprotective can be pretending, and it says "everything is possible and even much more than everything." In this type of overprotection, the child is almost the universal value of the entire family, and all the needs of all family members are eventually pushed not even to the second, but to the fifth plane, and the needs and desires of the child move to the fore. There are no requirements for the baby, there are no prohibitions or upbringing for him.
Also, overprotection may well be demanding, that is, saying "nothing and more". Here a lot of attention is also paid to the child, but only they do not idolize him, they do not keep him under the most close control. The child is simply overwhelmed with various obligations, and the parents turn to him with the words “you must”. With demanding hyper-guardianship, the child will have to report to his mom and dad for every step he takes, as well as inform them about the smallest changes in his plans.
What are the consequences of being overprotective?
In the case of pretending hyperactivity, the child may have serious adjustment problems in kindergarten. The thing is that a child who was worshiped, being very much spoiled, will only meet dislike and ignorance from his peers. It is very bad if the child did not go to kindergarten, but went straight to school after 7 years of such a spoiled life. In addition, both teachers and educators will not treat a child well, who is sure that everything is allowed to him, and he himself will never be punished.
In addition, if the artificially created "genius" and "talent" of the child is simply not confirmed in everything at a school where there is competition, the child will not only be disappointed in himself and in his abilities, but will also receive a serious blow to self-esteem and severe hatred of his mother with dad for cheating.
In the second case, when every breath of the child is controlled, the child grows up lacking in initiative, insecure. In addition, such a child will never have his own opinion, he will not express himself or make plans. And, of course, he will be reserved and will not have more than 5 friends.
The child will very early begin to realize all the horrors of such an upbringing and may rebel. As a latent form, rebellion manifests itself in the form of lies, exaggeration of the disease and attempts to escape from responsibilities. Open form - aggression, disobedience.
Conclusion
If suddenly you bitterly recognized yourself in one of the descriptions, immediately change your rules for raising a child, otherwise you risk raising an insecure, reserved person who will never be understood by the world if he does not engage in self-education and leaves you far away.
