The first date is a kind of compatibility test, after which the participants decide whether they want to move on or prefer to stop without starting. Each individual has personal criteria for selecting potential life partners. However, some moments still do not like the majority, therefore, significantly increase the risk of failure after the first meeting.
Miser
Women love generous men. Especially on the first date. It is much more offensive for them to observe when a potential gentleman is keen on calculating finances much more than the desire to make a favorable impression on a new acquaintance. If he complains about money problems, asks for a separate account in a cafe, demonstratively looks for the cheapest dishes on the menu, then the chances are high that the communication will end after the first meeting.
Perhaps a woman is no less economical and careful about money, but for her, greed in this case, rather, means a lack of strong sympathy or desire to continue dating. Since a man, without hesitation, demonstrates to an unfamiliar lady his not the best qualities, then she is not very interesting for him. Of course, this fact greatly hurts female pride. Indeed, at first, being carried away by a love game, people usually try to look better than they really are. Therefore, stinginess and the first date are incompatible things. Of course, you don’t need to waste money, especially if you don’t have it, but you can come up with some cute surprises and show concern for any budget. For example, buy coffee at your own expense or pay for a taxi, seeing off a new acquaintance. She will certainly appreciate the efforts of the gentleman, of course, if she is not looking for a millionaire with a yacht and a Ferrari.
Liar
Distrust of liars is inherent in a person at a subconscious level. Therefore, any signs that indicate that a man is not alien to lies, immediately sharply reduce his chances of success after the first date. For example, chatting on the Internet, he said that he had recently returned from a seaside resort. And having met in person, he tells how he had not been on vacation for several years. A woman will definitely not like such inconsistencies. It is especially unpleasant if a gentleman begins to lie on the phone in front of her that he has a business meeting, or defiantly does not answer calls. The internal female radar immediately starts signaling that it has some secrets. For example, a new acquaintance is not at all alone, therefore he is afraid of exposing his real status.
But even if it is known that he is absolutely free, the lie is unpleasant in itself. After all, if a man shamelessly lies at the initial stage of a relationship, then he will continue to do so in the future. Few people voluntarily agree to be deceived.
Aggressor
If already on the first date a woman notices that a new acquaintance does not know how to control herself, most likely she will not want to communicate with him any further. To witness a man's boorish behavior is already unpleasant in itself. However, the woman is more alarmed by another moment. She understands that in the near future she may also be the object of his aggression. The prospect of becoming a victim of a tyrant is not the most pleasant reason to continue dating.
One of the most striking manifestations of aggression is jealousy. If a guy on the first date begins to find out the details of past relationships, argues about friendship with men and reacts very emotionally, perhaps he has serious problems with trusting his chosen one. Of course, women are pleased when they are a little jealous, but no one wants to constantly make excuses and be under suspicion. Between total control and loneliness, ladies, with a high probability, choose the second option.
Whiner
Of course, any person has difficult moments in life, and he should not endlessly gush with optimism, even on the first date. However, if a man, having barely met a woman, begins to complain about her life, she is unlikely to appreciate such an impulse. It's one thing when problems are mentioned in passing to dilute the flow of jokes and slightly reduce the degree of cheerfulness. And it’s no good if a new acquaintance, without hesitation, lists his last failures, troubles, disappointments on a date. Moreover, he asks himself to feel sorry for himself.
Pity is not the feeling from which true love and affection grows. Next to a loser man, a woman herself will soon begin to feel her own failure. Few people want to hear about problems from the first date, serve as a vest and voluntarily plunge into someone else's negativity.
Alcoholic
Getting drunk on your first date is a surefire way to turn it into your last. When a man does not know the measure of alcohol consumption, a woman is unlikely to want to have anything in common with him. To pass the evening of the meeting over a couple of glasses of wine and appear completely insane are two big differences. The problem of drunkenness in our society is too strong and popular not to understand its danger. Girls are ready to close their eyes to a lot in relationships, but they will not tolerate harmful addictions.
However, the other extreme, associated with an absolutely sober lifestyle, also alarms the weaker sex, leading to suspicions about the fight against alcoholism. In general, this topic is rather delicate and it is better not to focus excessive attention on it. And you certainly shouldn't read lectures to an unfamiliar woman about the dangers of alcoholic beverages if she wants to relax a little, and the gentleman does not drink at all. Respectful attitude to each other from the first date will only benefit the nascent relationship.
