Many parents of two or more children are familiar with the situation in which the older child begins to wonder why he will not be the only one in the family? And why change something in the usual way of life?
Instructions
Step 1
To eliminate such questions, it is necessary to prepare your older child in advance for the appearance of a younger one. Conduct explanatory conversations with the firstborn, explain that he is now your assistant and responsible person. A little fool will appear, who will not be able to and know anything, and the older child will teach him everything together with you. And, of course, with the appearance of the second child of the first, you will not stop loving less, but on the contrary, in addition to love, you will appreciate his work and help at its true worth.
Step 2
Even when overworked with a small child, always devote a little time to an older child completely and limitlessly. Do not combine a screaming baby with reading a fairy tale to the first-born, namely, do it together without a baby. Let it be half an hour of your time, but let you have them only for two. Give the baby to your dad or grandmother, and play board games or bingo with your eldest, play in the cities or draw together, play with plasticine or tell each other unusual stories. Choose joint cases based on the age of the child.
Step 3
Separate children's personal space. Do not let a small child, due to the fact that he is a crumb at all, break tower blocks or tear the drawings of an older child. In his presence, intonationally explain to the baby that this should not be done, that the brother or sister will be offended. You will find understanding in the eyes of an elder. At the same time, it is necessary to convey to the older child that it is necessary to share toys with the younger and make sure that small parts (for example, from the designer) do not get into his mouth.
Step 4
Encourage children to play together. If the elder took the initiative to sit with the younger or splash in the bathroom, or play, then do not deprive him of this opportunity. Just watch the children closely to avoid unexpected situations.
Step 5
Never compare children with each other. Each of them is a personality, each is individual, with its own set of advantages and disadvantages. Don't prioritize one child over another.
Step 6
Tell your children often that you love them. One as a small and nice chubby, and the other as an adult and responsible, serious assistant, without whom you would never have coped. Love is different, like children. But you need to convey to the elder that with the appearance of the crumbs, your love for him only intensified.
