As a rule, children want a little brother or sister for themselves, they promise to help and take care of the baby. But this is only before the baby appears. As soon as you are discharged from the hospital and you return home, everything changes. A lot of prohibitions are poured on the older child. Here, the older kid is not up to joy. And why did he even want a sister or a brother? And you yourself do not understand, can not your child show a drop of understanding to the baby?
The reasons for jealousy are obvious here, it's not that your child is selfish, it's just that before you were completely his, you read a book to him at your first desire, played with him, went for a walk together, and now you are a constantly tired mother who is not up to games. Now everything depends on the whims of the tiny man. Well, how can you not offend your first child?
To begin with, it is worth understanding that you can never isolate your baby from noise and other inconveniences. You did it with the first child, but it won't happen with the second or third. Your older child also has the need to jump, run and play, you cannot constantly punish him for this, so you will turn the older child against the younger with your own hands.
No matter how worried you are about the baby, do not forbid the older child to touch him. It is also not worth forcing. This close contact plays an important role in finding mutual understanding between children. The same goes for helping with baby care. The older child is not at all obliged to help you with this, but if he wants to do something for the crumbs, do not forbid.
Try to find compromises. If an older child wants to take a walk longer, stay a little longer. Even if the baby is capricious and wants to go home, sometimes the will of the older child must be taken into account. So the youngest child will get used from infancy that he is not the only one whose opinion is important.
Praise your older child, set him up as an example for the younger. Especially when the younger one grows up a little and begins to understand what you are saying to him. For example, “Look, what a good brother, he ate everything,” after such words, the elder will be pleased that he was praised and the younger will try to eat everything in order to deserve praise.
Of course, jealousy will be present, but you, as a mother, must help the child overcome it. As you can see, this is not difficult at all.
