Some men postpone the proposal for a long time, while truly loving their women. Sometimes the expectation of the girl is delayed so much that she begins to doubt the seriousness of the young man's feelings. Delay is not always associated with a lack of love, there may be other reasons.
Why men don't want to get married
They are afraid of losing their freedom. Even if a man is a couch potato by nature, he will still hold on to his freedom. After all, if there is no stamp, you can pack up and leave, and after the wedding you will need to get divorced, divide property and deal with other legal issues.
They don't want to take responsibility. Men like to live alone and be responsible only for themselves. But after marriage, he will have to solve the problems of his wife, then, perhaps, a child will appear and his whole life will change. He will be forced to give up his habits, and sometimes do what he does not want to do.
Fear of financial issues. If a girl dreams of a magnificent and expensive wedding, and he cannot arrange it, the man will postpone this day as long as possible. And after creating a family, expenses increase - you need to look for an apartment, buy furniture and household appliances, provide for your wife, and in the future, for your child.
Reluctance to celebrate the wedding. Sometimes it is not finances that baffle a man, but the traditional ways of holding a wedding. Redemption of the bride, contests, toastmaster, the need to communicate with relatives all day and smile for the camera. And if the girl talks about it with enthusiasm, he will postpone the proposal.
Negative experiences can also play an important role. If a man has already been married and the marriage has fallen apart, he may be afraid of repeating history. After all, they, most likely, at the beginning of the relationship were also happy and ready for a long life together. Unpleasant memories prevent him from proposing.
Fear that everything will change. He is comfortable with your relationship at this stage. You do not depend on each other, do not demand much, he does not feel pressure or any responsibility. And after the wedding, everything can change: the beloved girl will turn into a capricious wife, and romantic feelings will fade away.
Scary stories of married friends. Sometimes the family life of an acquaintance can influence a guy's decision. If he hears stories every day about a grumpy wife, lack of sex, constant fights and a catastrophic lack of money, a man may change his mind about getting married. Take a closer look at the friends of your gentleman and their companions.
What to do
Talk to him. If the wait drags on for years and you already lose hope of a happy ending to the story, ask the man about the reasons for the silence. Only he will be able to accurately answer this question. Do not press on him, let him speak out and calmly discuss all the moments that scare him. It is possible that after an open conversation, he will propose to you.
