When communicating with our child, we do not think about the fact that some of our phrases can have very negative consequences for the delicate child's psyche and cause significant harm to the baby. What phrases should be avoided in a conversation with a child?
“If you don’t sleep, the babayka will take it away”, “If you don’t obey, I’ll take it to an orphanage.” By intimidating a child, we make him a neurasthenic and form fears, which will not be easy to get rid of later, even with the help of a good psychologist.
"The muddler! I'd rather do it myself! " By interfering with the child's attempts to act independently, you cultivate in him lack of initiative, self-doubt and lack of independence.
"Look at Katya, how slender she is, and you keep leaning on buns …", "Misha studies with only A's, and you are a fool." There is no need to compare your child with other children - this way you can form an inferiority complex in a small person, which in the future will bring him many problems and disappointments.
"You are my most beautiful", "Your classmates are no good for you!" Over-praising a child is just as harmful as under-praising. Over-praising results in arrogance, high self-esteem, and star fever. Such "star" children often have conflicts with their peers and practically have no friends.
"When you're so naughty, I don't love you." Mother's love is the foundation on which a person's attitude is built, his ability to be happy. The child must be sure that he is loved always and under any circumstances. Otherwise, his faith in himself is undermined, resentment, fear and feelings of inferiority arise.
"If not for you, I would have made a successful career", "If I didn't have to mess around with you so much, I would look better." Do not hold your child's fragile shoulders responsible for your failures, do not make him feel guilty that your life has failed.
"Okay, take this candy - just leave me alone!" By giving in to the child's persuasion, you give him power over yourself. After realizing that you can be "broken" by whims or whining, the child will begin to use them regularly to achieve their goals.
