How the controlling views of the parents sometimes weigh on the child! Of course, in the first years of his life, everyone was happy. But now that the urge to remove parental controls is unbearable, what to do? You need to become an adult. It's like in the subway - the turnstile has passed, and - freedom. The controllers were left behind. The maturity of a teenager can be seen not only by his physiological characteristics, but also by his emotional manifestations, speech and actions. What should be considered for a person who finds it difficult to breathe due to parental care?
It is necessary
The skill to take care of other people's feelings, and not just about your own
Instructions
Step 1
Learn to restrain your feelings. An adult is not the one who does whatever he wants, but the one who does the right thing. You don't have to build a reputation for throwing out your emotions when things don't go your way. Much more attractive in the eyes of parents is the ability to restrain oneself. Therefore, you don't have to whimper or act like a capricious child. Let the kids pout and slam doors. Otherwise, the desired freedom will not be achieved. On the contrary, it can bring back the already forgotten restrictions.
Step 2
Communicate with your parents in an adult way. Whenever you talk to your parents, reassure them of your understanding. Instead of dissatisfied, “I’m tired of your control!”, It’s better to say: “I understand your concerns, because you want to grow me into a worthy person.” And then you can offer your own adult compromise solution to the situation. Sometimes it's helpful to ask directly and respectfully, “I want to be given more freedom. What can I do for this?"
Step 3
Be proactive. It is important to reassure your parents that you can already be relied on. You can offer yourself as a chef or apartment renovator. Prove to your parents that you know how to handle money competently and no longer spend it on a lollipop. If you are already doing some part-time work during the holidays, offer to contribute your share of the utility bills.
Step 4
Follow parental requirements. Adults know the value of hygiene and order. There is no need to look for loopholes in the "law" on brushing your teeth and frequent handwashing. Be honest even in small things. If your parents notice that you are only pretending to comply with their requirements, then they will pretend that they have removed their control over you.
