What could be sadder than unrequited love? Is that the situation when this love was once shared with you, and then suddenly stopped. Well, this happens, and you need to learn to live without that man with whose name you wake up, live all day, go to bed, and in a dream he is again.
It is necessary
- - time
- - willpower
- - girlfriends
- - hobbies
Instructions
Step 1
It is necessary to start "falling out of love" just with the realization that these relations (if any) will not return. Simply put, leave the past in the past. It's easy to say and very, very difficult to do. But the most important thing in saving drowning people is the care of the drowning people about themselves.
You are drowning. You don't go to clubs and parties. You are no longer interested in beauty salons and sales. You meet with your girlfriends only to talk about him over and over again. You stopped caring about your appearance after he left your life. Or, on the contrary, if by the nature of your activity you continue to see him, you carefully think over your appearance, makeup, even posture and gestures, and begin to behave inappropriately as soon as he enters the same room with you. You are sitting at work or in class, letters, words, people flicker in front of you, but you do not notice them at all, they annoy you, because they distract you from the most important occupation in the world - feeling sorry for yourself and your beloved and memories of happy moments spent with him … Everything else is in the background. Is not it?
Stop! Your life is now in the background. Understand this. You put on 3D glasses and never want to return from virtuality to your own life. Are you ready to miss it? Ready to wake up at 50 and be surprised: "Oh, how long have I slept …" No? Then there is only one way out - to overcome the unnecessary feeling in yourself.
Step 2
After realizing that it is still necessary to part with this phantom feeling, the question arises of how to do it. Start with the main thing - forbid yourself to think about it. Does not work? Try to find the negative in it. Divide the sheet in half. In the left half, write whatever you like about it. And to the right everything that is not. Can't find the negative? Carry a piece of paper with you in your bag and remember. As soon as you remember, write it down right away. Listens to the "Beasts" group. Doesn't brush teeth before bed. Didn't give you flowers … Great, you are on the right track. … Wore stale shirts. In general, in shirts with a diamond pattern ?! Lick your fingers? Wore family panties. Smoked cheap cigarettes? Right in bed?..
This is how, little by little, you can extract from your memory all those negative little things that are certainly inherent in the object of your suffering. Just because of the severity of suffering and the depth of your bright feelings, you have forgotten all these annoying little things.
When the list of minuses equals and begins to overtake the pluses in the left half of the leaf, a toggle switch will work in your brain, which from the category of "celestials" will transfer your loved one to "ordinary people", or maybe you even think about the topic: "I deserve better."
Step 3
Stop listening to songs that remind you of him. Take his things to the trash or return them to him. Rearrange furniture in the house if you lived together. Make the space around you different from what it was during your relationship. Think back to the music you loved before him. Go to "your" restaurant with a friend or work buddy. Debunk this personal "Mecca" of yours. This is an ordinary restaurant where a lot of people go, not just a bastion of your past happiness. This is a common song. It was played on the radio before your romance and will be played after. She has nothing to do with you. And cleaning the house with throwing away his belongings and wiping off the dust will prepare a place in your life for something new. And it will become easier to breathe.
Step 4
Be sure to go to the hairdresser. If you have long hair, cut off about ten centimeters. If not, change your haircut. Change the color. Be sure to change your head. Hair stores our memories and negativity. All sadness and memory not only stuck in your soul and brain, but also "got entangled in your hair", and therefore get rid of them. How nice it can be to shake your hair after a fresh haircut! As if she was born again. Well, or, in any case, she got a lot younger.
Step 5
Diversify your life. Read on. Go to theaters. To the cinema. For concerts. Drink tea with friends. Go in for sports. So what if they never did this? Once you have to start. If it's boring just to visit the fitness center, dancing is a great way out. And useful, and beautiful, and very emotional. What dances? Yes, any! Whether it's belly dance, even tango, or street dance, the main thing is to move and smile! What? To yourself, the instructor, your body, even your first awkward movements, the reflection in the mirror! Required.
Step 6
And further. Read at least one book by Larisa Renard. It will help you understand why men leave for other women, what they are looking for, what they value and, most importantly, how to be and what to pay attention to when building relationships with a man.
