It seems that your newborn baby was very benevolent and absolutely not worried about who is next to him. Grandmothers, grandfathers, neighbors - all belonged to the circle of "trusted" persons. But this was only up to six months. After this milestone date, you suddenly began to notice that the child behaves extremely wary in the presence of strangers.
From now on, all sorts of uninvited guests, doctors and even shop assistants can pose a serious problem for you. The child begins to be afraid of their presence, to ask mom or dad for their hands and even cry loudly and loudly. In fact, this is a serious test both for parents who are at a loss from such behavior of their child, and for the baby.
The thing is that this period is inevitable in the development of every child. After six months, your baby begins to clearly recognize familiar and unfamiliar faces. Obviously, those people who will most often be near him and will be among those whom he will not be afraid of. Don't be surprised if your child cries when grandparents, whom he hasn't seen for more than three weeks, appear.
What to do, you ask? After all, such a situation is unpleasant and dangerous for the mental health of the baby. And how parents are worried about this, it is better not to say! To begin with, in such a situation, you need to calm down and soberly assess the events that are taking place. If your child is absolutely healthy and reacts painfully only to the appearance of unfamiliar people, do the following.
Do not scold or criticize your little one for their fear. The child in a completely natural way tries to show you that this person is unpleasant to him for some reason. In addition, your child learns to defend himself, because he does not yet know that besides his mother, there are still people who will not offend him. You should not utter the phrases: "Shame on you!" or "Come on, stop crying and sit with your grandmother (grandfather, aunt) on the arms!"
Do not force your toddler to contact the person he is afraid of. In this case, you should think first of all about the health and psychological comfort of your baby. Try to tactfully explain to your relatives and friends that your baby is not yet ready to communicate with them so closely. If they are prudent and reasonable people, they can understand this.
Do not be afraid yourself. There are situations when communication with strangers is inevitable. For example, visiting a children's clinic. Many children react to local doctors with crying, screaming, hysterics. However, admit that you yourself are not averse to abandoning these visits, because you are afraid of people in white coats since childhood. The child will definitely feel your mood and will be even more afraid.
Don't avoid people. You may think that since the child is afraid of strangers, then visiting such places is not worth it. This is not true, as you doom your child to a prolonged phobia. Be sure to go with him to shops, playgrounds, and a development center. Let guests also come to you. Just keep a certain distance and show your baby that you are there and that he is safe every time.
Don't worry in vain. Soon this age will pass, and your baby will become a sociable child. But you must definitely help him in this. Be patient and you will succeed!
