A person wants to love and be loved. Someone does it right away: even at school, they find themselves a mate and carry love throughout their lives. Others face a series of failures on the way to personal happiness. They like to make films about such girls, where at the end the heroine meets a man who falls in love with her. But how can real girls become lucky in love?
Instructions
Step 1
Appearance is not as important as your attitude to success. If you feel like an attractive girl, then men will treat you the same way. Of course, this is not a reason to forget about taking care of yourself. Few people will like at first glance a gray mouse, frightened looking at a young man who approached her to meet her.
Step 2
Think about whether you are psychologically ready to start a strong, long-term relationship? Many girls, subconsciously fearing this, choose men for themselves, the romance with whom will be short and will end in tears and another confirmation that all men are not very good people. You may need to work with a psychologist who can find the cause of your fears and with whom you can overcome them.
Step 3
If in your youth you were betrayed by a loved one, then the fear of finding yourself in a similar situation again can accompany you all your life. And you will unconsciously provoke your current man to do the same. For example, if a classmate you like chose your deskmate, already in adulthood you can become jealous of your boyfriend, reproaching him for your suspicions. But, if you ask a young man ten times whether it is true that his girlfriend has slender legs, nine times he will answer that he likes yours much more, and on the tenth he will really look closely. And you will again receive confirmation that you cannot trust anyone, although you yourself have created a similar situation.
Step 4
If you want to get out of this vicious circle, you will have to overcome yourself. No matter how you would like to voice your suspicions about his loyalty and reliability to your new boyfriend, remember that you are a reasonable, adequate woman and keep your mouth shut.
Step 5
More often than not, the past relationship won't let go because you haven't finished it. They did not understand the reason why they left you, did not have time to express their resentment. Do it now. If you find it inappropriate to sort things out with a man you liked ten years ago, write him a letter in which you tell how he hurt you, and then tear him up and throw him in the trash. Or put a plush toy in front of you and imagine that she is the guy who offended you, and you finally have a chance to settle scores.
Step 6
Trust your intuition. If you have met an attractive guy, but in the depths of your mind the thought periodically pops up that this is not that - perhaps you are not comfortable alone with him, or his tie annoys you, and even if there is no reason - think about whether you need this relationship. Don't be confused by the fact that he is a promising man with a car and a great job - that is not what will make you happy. If you trust your inner voice, you will soon meet true love.
