At different periods of life, the relationship of two people can undergo changes - from great love to indifference and even a complete loss of interest in each other. So, how do you identify the first signs of a guy's cooling down and what to do to revive and strengthen his feelings for you?
Has your boyfriend really lost interest in you?
Did you have it like that? Suddenly there was a disturbing thought: "My boyfriend has cooled …"? You met, enjoyed every hour spent together. But one day they felt that he was not the same. Your loved one does not look the way they used to, does not listen to what you are saying, and no longer gives flowers. Alas, all this is in the past, and your relationship is not the same.
Life is rich in many different sensations, pleasant and joyful, and sometimes sad and very sad. But, if there were no unpleasant moments in life, could people value happy hours and days so much?
The unexpected transition from joy to sadness is frightening, makes you act thoughtlessly. This is where you need to stop, give yourself time to think. After all, a variety of reasons for the cooling of relations are possible. Perhaps your boyfriend is just very tired, he is in trouble at work. So it can be for everyone.
In this situation, it is best not to scandal or interrogate the tired and upset person. This is exactly what can cause a break in relations. The best option is to calmly discuss the reason why the guy has cooled, as you think it is. It is very likely that your relationship has not changed at all, and you will happily continue to call him "my boyfriend", "mine."
If your boyfriend began to grow cold towards you
If, nevertheless, it turns out that your boyfriend has begun to lose interest in you, and you do not want to part with this person, you do not need to panic. Assess the situation soberly and make a plan for your further actions. Remember? Men are hunters by nature. They are interested in new, unattainable. Perhaps you relaxed, stopped being a mystery to your boyfriend.
Pause for a period, make him feel like you can get out of his life.
Make him a little jealous. Let him see that his friends admire you. But just do not overdo it with flirting, do not let him think that you no longer need him, otherwise he will grow cold towards you.
Use that while you are together, and he just started to cool to you. Take care of yourself to look your best, arrange an unusual dinner. A beautiful woman, to whom he has not yet completely lost interest, his favorite music and delicious food (you know what he loves!) Will help him look at you with different eyes, again see the one he almost stopped loving.
Perhaps, having relaxed, convinced of his love, you stopped taking care of yourself. And he constantly sees you without makeup, with disheveled hair, frayed jeans and a stretched T-shirt. A man loves with his eyes, we must not forget about it!
Usually a man involuntarily compares his woman to his mother. Think about how you can be like her. Try to highlight this similarity. Of course, this is only if you are sure that your boyfriend has a very good relationship with his mom. Otherwise, you can hurt yourself.
Or, when meeting on the street, try to make your route in such a way as to go through the places where you walked when your feelings for each other were especially strong. This will stir up a fading feeling and help it flare up with renewed vigor.
And further. Think about joint activities, hobbies. Perhaps your boyfriend is into alpine skiing, swimming, football, or hockey. If you really love him and don't want to lose, share his passion with him. Being together will strengthen your relationship. And in conversations with your friends, you will again call him "my boyfriend" and be proud of yourself, because you were able to win your loved one again and return his feelings to you.
