If you recently found out about your own wife's adultery, you are probably now in complete confusion. You do not know what to do now, how to treat her betrayal and how to continue to live, because now you have lost all confidence in her …
Instructions
Step 1
Try to react to everything that happens with dignity. Don't stoop to scandals, accusations and statements about the "senselessly lost past." Yes, you love your spouse and do not even allow the thought of treason, but she acted treacherously towards you - consciously and without any pity. But the fact remains, she slept with someone else. However you feel about it, do not let her humiliate you even more. Calmly inform her that you know the whole truth about her adventures. Do not pay attention to the assurances “it all happened by chance”, “I did not realize what I was doing”. Since she at least tried to hide the fact of treason from you, it means she knew what she was doing, and understood everything perfectly - and now she is just trying to find at least some excuse.
Step 2
Do not try to find out as much information as possible about her lover. Why do you need this? It won't be easier for you to know his phone number, cars, place of residence and work address. And if you try to call him or seek a meeting with him in any possible way, he will tell your wife about it - and they will laugh at you together. Therefore, it does not matter who seduced your wife - after all, not only the lover is to blame, but she herself.
Step 3
You have to decide what to do next. Realizing your future in such a situation is a very serious step. Are you ready to put up with the betrayal of a loved one? Will you be able to live with your wife under the same roof as before? If not, you shouldn't continue the meaningless relationship. If you are ready to close your eyes to her "missteps" in the name of love, children or something else - you know, even if the betrayal does not happen again, it will be very difficult to regain trust and mutual respect. To return love to the family and be able to forgive, you will have to visit a psychologist or psychotherapist.
