Several years ago, the French director Paul Larbre offered his new movie "Houses on the same street" to the audience's judgment. This is a two-part picture in which both episodes tell the same story, show the same events, but everything that happens is viewed from different points of view - male and female. The super task that the actors were supposed to play boiled down to the ambivalent formula "Cheating on my husband, cheating on my wife." In other words, throughout the entire film there was a question of whether the infidelity of “my” gender is acceptable, and whether the “opposite” one is acceptable. As you might expect, men are more tolerant of their own infidelities, but for women they have almost chastity belts in store: ladies should not cheat under any circumstances.
Further, according to the plot, the question was posed: And why should a husband have the right to treason, while his legal half should be like Caesar's wife - beyond suspicion? Moreover, none of the men gave a more or less intelligible answer. Only not very intelligible excuses say, "the wife is the keeper of the hearth", or "I must be sure that these children are mine." In short, not convincing. Women, on the other hand, had a slightly different opinion on this matter, they argued a lot, tried to argue, but most of them nevertheless agreed that "a wife will not cheat from a good husband." However, this is in France … And even then - in the cinema …
In fact, no one, even the most loving couple, is immune from cheating. After all, many cases of infidelity stem only from the fact that a man is looking for a Woman in all women, and she, in turn, is trying to find all Men - in one. She wants her husband to be smart, athletic, empathetic, artistic, understanding, hardworking and sociable Marlon Brando with DiCaprio eyes and someone's charming smile. For a moment, all this idealized being merges with the beloved and is completely identified with him. Agree that "epiphany" will not be long in coming. And a man, in fact, having entered into a relationship with one in which, as it seems to him, there is some part of the Beautiful Lady, still does not find the whole image in his wife. His passion makes him change, that is, “saddle the horse” and again embark on her quest.
Then the husband will be guilty to make excuses that he himself does not know how the betrayal of his wife could have happened, which found "some kind of eclipse." A wife, in a similar situation, will also lower her eyes and say, "why did I cheat on my husband - not otherwise, the devil beguiled." But all this will follow only after the very fact of betrayal becomes obvious to the partner. "To confess or not to confess" - most husbands do not suffer from such a dilemma, and are not going to suffer. Even caught in someone else's bed, they will deny to the last, coming up with dozens of ridiculous and ridiculous excuses. And those who have cheated on their wives, on the contrary, experience remorse quite often.
If you cheated on your husband (wife) once, by accident or under the influence of an unexpectedly "surging" passion and no longer strive for a meeting, then it is better to simply … forget about this fact. After all, a fleeting physical betrayal is a minuscule compared to a psychological betrayal. Now, if you experience spiritual closeness with the object of betrayal, which you lack in marriage, if you want to hear the desired voice every minute, if your heart sings, and your soul rejoices when you, simply holding hands, walk around the evening city - then everything is much more serious then you are actually changing …
