If there are serious problems in the marriage, having a child will not solve them. In this case, you need either a mutual desire of the spouses to save their family, or get divorced and not torment each other.
Instructions
Step 1
During pregnancy and after childbirth, discord occurs in some families, there are quarrels and resentments against each other. This is especially the case when the child is the first and the parents are not yet quite ready for his appearance. After all, the family's way of life is changing very much, additional responsibilities appear, sometimes financial problems due to the fact that the woman does not work yet, and the baby needs a lot.
Step 2
Having a baby, like pregnancy itself, often causes hormonal changes in a woman, as a result of which she is more impulsive, vulnerable and easily changes her mood.
Step 3
During the decree, the young mother's lifestyle changes a lot, and her concerns are now based on the child and the family as a whole. Sometimes there is not enough time, and sleepless nights do their job. The child is an indicator of the family, tests it for strength. If there is love and mutual understanding, then the baby will only strengthen and unite her even more. Well, if there are real problems that could somehow be smoothed out before pregnancy by the employment of both, with less everyday difficulties, then they all come out.
Step 4
Divorce is the very last option you can use to resolve these problems. According to the Family Code of the Russian Federation, laws protect a pregnant woman and make it possible to divorce only on her initiative. Otherwise, this can be done only after the child is one year old. If the spouse himself files for divorce without the consent of his wife, then the court will not consider this case. Divorce is made only through the magistrate's court, by submitting the following documents there: passports and their copies (if only a woman is present, then only her copy), a marriage registration certificate and a statement that indicates all the reasons. If at this moment there is already a child, then you can immediately file for child support. Usually 1-2 months are given to think over the decision, after which, if the spouse does not agree, you will be divorced anyway. After the baby turns one year old, they are bred in the usual manner through the court, but at the request of either of the spouses.
Step 5
If a man, being married, believes that the child is not from him, he can immediately after his birth file a lawsuit to establish paternity. If this fact is confirmed, he cannot be recorded in the birth certificate without his consent, and he can already divorce when he wants, because in this case, the restrictions do not apply.
Step 6
It will be very difficult for a pregnant woman and a woman with a small child alone, both financially and in terms of assistance. If she really needs it, she can file for alimony for her maintenance until the baby is 3 years old.
Step 7
Real reasons for divorce can only be really things that cannot be resolved peacefully. It can be betrayal and betrayal of a loved one, alcoholism, violence, etc. Everyday quarrels in the form of lack of help, cooling of feelings, etc., can be tried to be resolved through negotiations with each other, if necessary, contacting specialists.
Step 8
The most difficult year is considered the first year after the birth of a child. At this time, more divorces occur. Then it becomes easier, there is an adaptation to a new way of life. Although this does not apply to people who become strangers in marriage and destroy each other's lives. In this case, it is better to really get a divorce and find a more suitable person for yourself. After all, it is much more difficult for a baby to be in an atmosphere of eternal scandals and hatred for a friend than to live with one loving parent.
