You can hardly react indifferently to your husband's betrayal. A woman is faced with a difficult choice: to end the relationship or to forgive the betrayer. Psychology has some advice on this.
Leave or stay is the question
Upon learning about your husband's betrayal, you will most likely react very emotionally. This is a natural reaction, but you should try to cool down as soon as possible. Stormy emotions make people blind, and now you need to think sensibly.
First, you need to define your feelings for your husband. Now you are bitter and painful, but do you still love him? To make your thinking process easier, write down all the pros and cons on paper.
If the relationship has long been conflicted and painful, most likely you will decide to break up. Feelings cooled down, the man most likely went in search of new love.
Many women understand that they have cooled down sharply towards their husband after his act. The husband becomes disgusted with him, pictures of betrayal constantly appear in the imagination. Most likely, in this case, it will also not be possible to return the relationship.
Well, if love is still strong, it is scary to lose a loved one and dear person - all that remains is to work hard.
How to bring light back into a relationship
The most important thing is not to dive into self-pity and self-deprecating reasoning, this will kill your self-esteem. It is necessary to clearly realize that it is impossible to change what happened.
A big mistake is the desire to take revenge on her husband with the same coin. This can hardly be called a reasonable decision, such an act will aggravate everything even more.
You can try to change something in your relationship in order to reach a qualitatively new level. You have to understand that relationship problems don't come from anywhere. If your husband did this, then he was unhappy with something in your relationship.
Analyze your specific cheating situation to learn from it. It will be easiest to understand the reasons for a one-time betrayal. A one-time betrayal most likely indicates the presence of a problem of monotony of family life, a desire for freshness of sensations.
If cheating occurs regularly, it will be much more difficult to correct the situation. It is based on deep contradictions and the failure of your relationship at this point in time. To find out these reasons, it is best to seek the services of a professional psychologist.
Your family counselor will schedule joint therapy sessions for you. Just do not rely on a psychologist in everything and behave passively. The psychologist only makes you aware of the problem, and does not dictate ready-made answers.
Very common reasons for cheating are an unsatisfactory sex life, a lack of spiritual intimacy, the emergence of everyday trifles to the fore, and a lack of joint hobbies. Most likely, these are the moments the psychologist will point out to you.
