What could be more painful than the betrayal of a loved one? It’s like an unexpected and verified blow to the solar plexus, when everything floats before our eyes, and there is no strength left to make even a sound. But what if the relationship after the incident needs to be preserved? How can we learn to trust again?
Instructions
Step 1
First you need to understand yourself. Listen and understand if you are able to forgive the person who cheated on you. Don't pretend to be forgiven. Do not let back into the family, constantly reproaching and letting go of stinging innuendos. And really forgive.
Step 2
Next, you need to find out the reasons for the betrayal. It is important to assess the situation adequately. It has long been no secret that both people are usually to blame for a broken relationship. Therefore, try to understand what you did wrong, what your loved one lacks in you, in your relationship. But without self-flagellation. Often the family is simply eaten up by everyday life, and therefore one of the spouses sometimes tries to be distracted, to forget. It's sad if cheating is the only way to solve this problem.
Step 3
Become more attentive to each other. After all, they do not seek from goodness. It is unlikely that your partner is fed up with an ideal life - most likely he was missing something. Give it to him. Try to bring romance back to your relationship.
Step 4
Of course, all of this will be difficult to do alone. Besides, a woman who has not yet forgotten her pain. Therefore, the changed side, in turn, if also wants to save the family, must make sure that for some time her life becomes an open book for her partner. A person who has fallen asleep has the right to forgiveness, but he must be able to discuss the current situation as many times as necessary for the deceived side.
Step 5
In order to forgive a person without harboring anger, you can use meditation and yoga, which can give your soul peace and tranquility. There are many variations of these rituals that can be accompanied by aromatherapy and pleasant music.
Step 6
But most importantly, try to become a self-sufficient person. It is much easier to live when there are many interesting activities, people, things in your life, when every day is full of events. If the whole world is focused specifically on relationships, then the blows of fate are harder to bear.
Step 7
It is much more difficult to understand and forgive than to end a relationship without understanding what happened. Trying to figure out the situation can be much more painful than burying your head in the sand and waiting for everything to pass by itself. Yet there are relationships that are worth forgiveness and new life.
