All kinds of situations happen in life. Sometimes a strong and organic relationship is jeopardized because a couple has made a serious mistake. Contrary to popular stereotype, wives often cheat on their husbands. After that, it can be very difficult to regain the trust of a loved one.
Instructions
Step 1
Most men are capable of compassion and forgiveness, they can forgive cheating, but for this they need a really serious reason. You shouldn't even think about bargaining with your husband, promising him concessions or increased attention. Of course, you will have to make compromises in order to soften his pain and anger, but first of all, you need to ask for forgiveness. Moreover, this must be done sincerely and humbly. Do not try at this moment to blame him for past actions, do not make excuses, do not tell him that your betrayal was the result of some of his actions, do not demand changes from him. This is fundamentally wrong. Try to speak from your heart, calmly and without strain. Do not try to beg and beg for forgiveness, as this will not lead to anything good. Remember that you have a chance to ask for forgiveness even after a violent quarrel, but do not hope that everything will go smoothly in this case. Get ready for a long conversation.
Step 2
All those promises that you are ready to make to your husband must be fulfilled. Otherwise, you will not be able to maintain the remnants of trust in your relationship. Stop communicating with the man with whom you cheated on your husband. Minimize communication with other men, so as not to cause jealousy, alas, justified by the husband. Think about the concessions you are willing to make to regain your husband's trust.
Step 3
The main thing is not to wait for a quick reaction. Resentments take time to subside. If you know your husband well, give him the time he needs to get out of the shock. But be prepared that he will always remember about your betrayal, this will affect your relationship in any case. Please note that not every man can survive the betrayal of his beloved woman; in some cases, the relationship simply cannot be established.
Step 4
Do not assume that restoring relationships after such upheavals is only your business. Ask your husband for help, talk to him, decide what your future life together will look like. Keep in mind that if you have to apologize for your mistake for years, and your husband will forever remain for you in the role of the accuser, there will be no sense from such a relationship. Any major quarrel will upset the balance between you, as all your sins will be remembered. If for your husband your offense becomes a way to control your life, it is worth parting with him, since the relationship built on this principle cannot be saved.
