If treason happened in your family life, it happened through your fault, but you want to save the marriage, act. Prove to your spouse that what happened is a ridiculous mistake, an accident that will never happen again.
After infidelity: what to do?
Being in the role of a cheater, of course, is not easy. Your family is broken up through your fault, you feel remorse, you feel a tremendous sense of guilt towards your husband - these are the consequences of your momentary weakness.
Analyze what made you take this step? Lack of attention from your husband or your lightheadedness? Be that as it may, you allowed yourself what is commonly called betrayal. How should you behave further? Invite your husband to talk calmly, discuss what happened, but be prepared for the fact that he may not agree to this right away. Don't insist, give your spouse some time to calm down and come to his senses.
During a serious conversation with your husband, do not try to make excuses and blame someone for your cheating. To be forgiven, you must admit and understand your own guilt. Be honest with yourself and your spouse - if you do not feel love for your husband, consider whether you should strive to save your marriage. If everything that happened was a mistake, and you love your husband, from now on you should become the model of the ideal wife.
How does the ideal wife behave? Does not stay outside the home longer than promised, does not wear defiant outfits, keeps modestly with strangers, does housework and raising children, etc. If you are not very attracted to such prospects or your husband is not a fan of the housebuilding traditions, try at least not to give him serious reasons for jealousy and suspicion. Remember that your spouse's trust in you has now been seriously shaken.
How to get rid of guilt
What was, what was, stop feeling guilty all the time. You calmly talked with your husband, admitted your mistakes, repented and promised not to do this again? Perfectly! Now proudly straighten your shoulders and continue living with dignity. Your husband does not need a woman who does not love herself, who experiences constant feelings of guilt and discouragement. Learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes, learn from them, remember that there are no imperfect people in the world who have lived their lives without a single mistake.
Watch your appearance, do not allow depression - you should become even more beautiful and more perfect than before. Sign up for a fitness club or gym, visit a beauty salon, sauna and pool. If you want your husband back, you have to look your best.
Strive to ensure that from now on, only mutual respect, love and harmony reign in your relationship with your husband. Do not allow even a small lie, openly discuss all emerging problems, talk about your feelings to your spouse more often, and very soon he will forget about your stupid mistake.
