Recently, more and more often you can meet a family in which the husband suffers from alcoholism, poisoning the life of himself and his loved ones. Some put up with this problem and continue to live as before. Others take drastic measures by filing for divorce.
Such a situation in the family can be called a stalemate - on the one hand, women cannot divorce a drinking spouse, since this contradicts the family attitudes that were "hammered" into their heads in childhood. On the other hand, many people find it difficult to live with a changed person, being subjected to daily violence.
What to do
No one can give you an unequivocal answer to this question. If you still love your spouse, cannot imagine life without him and want to return his former appearance by all means, you can resort to the help of specialists coding or treating alcoholics. Of course, your other half will be against this development of events, so you will have to act in secret. If your husband can still soberly assess the situation, try to talk to him seriously - some men, after such conversations, nevertheless take up their minds and stop drinking without the help of doctors or psychologists.
During a serious conversation, try to find out the reason for the constant use of alcohol. Some of the most common causes of male alcoholism are problems at work and family problems. If he has troubles at work, support him without reproaching him for his insolvency and mediocrity (the latter can cause the opposite effect). When identifying the reasons in the family, for example, if you often begin to reproach and accuse your spouse of something, you will have to adjust your behavior and attitude towards him. Of course, it will be very difficult at first, but it is still worth trying.
Divorce as a way out
If you understand that no amount of talking, coding, or other methods of dealing with alcoholism in the family works, consider divorce. Despite the opinion of the society, “Such a husband is better than none,” sometimes it is better to end a relationship with a man who cannot pull himself together and get rid of such an addiction. This is especially true if you have common children - imagine what example you set for a child when he sees a drunken father every day raising his hand to his wife. If you are afraid that without an alcoholic husband you will not be able to raise, clothe, shoe and feed your children, this is not so. In most cases, after a divorce, women begin to live for the sake of their children, trying to provide them with everything they need, to take up their upbringing and give them a good education.
Life after divorce
Do not think that life after a divorce ends - it is not. If you set yourself up for the best, you can be sure that you will find a man who will love you for who you are, who will take care of you and your children. The main thing is to believe in yourself and a bright future.
