“My husband drinks”… Unfortunately, these words are familiar to many women. Everyone has their own stories and destinies, one thing in common is a burning desire to help a loved one return to a normal life, in which alcohol is far from the most important.
Instructions
Step 1
Think about what the drunkenness of your man is connected with? Most psychologists agree that it is not problems that make a person drink, but a weak person is trying to get away from problems in this way. As a rule, men who drink do not have enough inner strength to change life circumstances, and alcohol helps them come to terms with the situation. And for good, such men can hardly be called a truly stronger sex. But you cannot order your heart, and if your life partner turned out to be such a "weak strong" sex, then you need to think about how to restore his faith in himself and that he has every opportunity to live a normal life and solve problems without resorting to alcohol …
Step 2
Try to get as close to your husband as possible. Let him know that at home not reproaches, hysterics, threats await him, but a tender and warm attitude, participation and understanding. However, don't make excuses for drinking! If your husband's behavior does not change, then make it clear that you hate it. Just do not rush the words "divorce" and "leave" - sometimes it is enough to say them once, after which the spouse will become an ex-husband. Let the man know that if his behavior doesn't change, he might lose you. To do this, live your life, do not fawn and do not look into your eyes, do not show your tears and emotions. Let him feel that with every drunken return home, you are further away from him.
Step 3
At the same time, try to convey to your husband how this behavior hurts you. Only not with tears and hysterics, but with constructive calm, reasoned conversation. Do not start a conversation with a drunk man, let him sober up first and come to a normal frame of mind. Immediately be prepared for the fact that quite a lot of such sentimental conversations will be required. Explain to the man that he is not becoming the best example for children who see and understand everything (even if they are still small). If possible, take a picture of your husband drunk, or better yet, record it on video and show him the pictures or recording when he is in normal condition - perhaps this will help him understand how low he has fallen.
Step 4
If your husband drinks with regular drinking companions, then try to change his circle of communication (just do not do it too explicitly and defiantly). To do this, load it with work, leaving no time for drunken companies - start doing repairs, start a garden, a summer cottage. Connect your relatives and friends, organize joint trips to nature, trips to the cinema, theater, themed holidays with a minimum of alcohol (or better without it). Show your husband that life is great without drinking.
Step 5
Encourage your husband to seek medical attention, visit a narcologist, or “code”. In this case, the most important thing is that he himself wants to quit drinking (or at least admits that he abuses alcohol), otherwise the result, if there is, is very unstable. Also, subtly give your husband information about the negative effects of alcohol on health (and especially on the male genital organs and their functions).
