For a woman to find out that her husband wants to divorce her is a heavy blow. Even if their marriage, with all the desire, could not be called exemplary. What can we say about cases when everything seemed to be in order: normal relations, prosperity in the house, children grow up to the delight of their parents. And suddenly: "I can no longer live with you, I am filing for divorce, I am leaving for another!" How can a woman be in such a situation? How to persuade your husband not to take this step?
Instructions
Step 1
You can understand your confusion, resentment, even anger. But we must remember the wise truth: "Anger is a bad counselor!" A woman who wants to save her family needs to pull herself together and act.
Step 2
In no case do not resort to tears, reproaches, threats, do not scold your husband and homeless woman with the last words. And even more so, do not blackmail your husband: “Will you leave? You will never see children again! I will not let you meet with them!"
Step 3
You must understand: the husband, even if he considers himself absolutely right, still feels both guilt and embarrassment. After all, when he got married, he took on serious obligations to you and to your future children. Now he broke them. To justify himself in his own eyes, he just needs your tears, tantrums, threats. They say, obligations are obligations, but how to live with this hysterical woman? No patience is enough.
Step 4
Instead, ask him to be clear about why he made this decision. And in any case, do not put him in the position of the accused! It is much better to ask the question like this: “Please explain what I did wrong? What was the mistake? " The benefits of this psychological move are indisputable: the husband instinctively expects reproaches, tears, insults, is ready to "snap back", and you behave calmly, moreover, you admit your own guilt! Albeit in a neutral, "veiled" form. He will at least be puzzled, confused, and this is exactly what you need.
Step 5
Children, of course, should be mentioned, but not as an instrument of revenge on the "insidious traitor", but in the sense that they need a father! The argument "What about children without a father ?!" very strong. For many men, he will surely work exactly as his wife wants.
Step 6
Be sure to use this argument as well: there is no guarantee that he will be better with another woman. Will this couple be able to get used to each other, get used to it? Well, as the first passion subside, and it becomes clear that they do not suit each other at all, what then? What will it be like for my husband to come back, bashfully downcasting his eyes? And you can understand and forgive, but whether children will understand and forgive is a big question! You can refer to the example of the heroes of the wonderful film "Love and Doves".
Step 7
In a word, less emotion, more common sense and correct tactics! Then there is a good chance to keep the husband from divorce.
