There is an opinion about the illusory nature of female friendship. There is even a cute joke: "If a friend supported your dress train, then prepare to step on it in a more suitable situation." In fact, the myth that there is no female friendship was created and supported by … men.
Such a different friendship
It is difficult for men to understand the meaning of female friendship. For them, the joy of chatting about trifles or spending half a day shopping together is beyond their reach. Men are annoyed by the excessive emotionality of female communication, its fullness of gossip. They do not understand how a woman can be offended by her friend "for life", and after a couple of days it is nice to twitter with her on the phone.
The fact is that the needs of men and women for friendship are different. If you think about it, it is also not easy for a woman to imagine a friend who does not appear for months, comes only when a difficult insoluble situation arises, listens silently, and, taking a sip of vodka, succinctly summarizes “Now we will decide”.
For women, friendship is conversations, both sincere and "empty", communication, the opportunity to spend time pleasantly together, share impressions and exchange experiences.
What is it for men
But men diligently support the myth of the unreality of female friendship. They need it in order to switch the attention of their beloved from girlfriends to themselves. Men from childhood react painfully if loved ones pay attention to someone else besides them. It is known that a man can be jealous of his spouse not only of his colleagues and male acquaintances, but even … of his own child. And, instilling in a loved one about the frivolity and even the potential danger of her relationship with her friends, they, first of all, care about their emotional comfort.
In fact, no matter how much you love your spouse, you should not sacrifice for his sake a long-standing friendship that is dear to your heart - after all, friends give us the opportunity to feel happy and living life to the fullest. Just inspire your loved one with the idea that you have girlfriends, and he will have to come to terms with it.
