If after a few years of family life everything becomes predictable and uninteresting, then the spouses involuntarily wonder if everything is in order. Not the happiest thoughts and worst fears may come to mind. Irritation or dissatisfaction with each other may build up. After all, everything was different before. Doesn't love go away like that? No - this is a natural cycle of the development of family relations, and also a consequence of changes in the spouses themselves. So it's time to make an effort and diversify your relationship.
Instructions
Step 1
Remember what you liked together in your youth, at the beginning of the relationship? How did you spend your time? Will you like it now? Something new or well-forgotten old will add variety to your relationship. The most common recommendation is to organize a date with your spouse, spend time alone, talking to each other or doing a common business. The point is to devote your time and attention to your spouse, interact together and get a good result. After all, if there are children, then you will not be able to fully devote yourself to your other half - the children require full attention and dedication from adults.
Step 2
Develop, learn new things. Look for new sensations and impressions and try to do it together. But if the spouse is not so easy-going, then tell him as much new as possible. Discuss different leisure activities and hobbies. Watch the reaction of your spouse - what will light up your eyes, what will be really interesting for both? Maybe together you will decide to try rafting on a mountain river or jump with a parachute, or maybe you will go to a concert of your favorite performer from your youth. Then you will have more common topics of conversation.
Step 3
Take on your space. No matter how strong love is, it is impossible to dissolve in each other for a long time. Two seem to begin to suffocate in a closed system, especially if one of them is an extrovert. Sports, hobbies help to retire for a while, maintain vitality, communication with people allows you to exchange energy with others. Thanks to this, it is possible to maintain attractiveness and interest in the eyes of their half and in their own.
Step 4
Watch yourself. This applies to both women and men, both in terms of physical fitness and in terms of personal care. If you completely relax, give up and wear at home, figuratively speaking, a greasy robe every day, smell of fish, then you won't have to expect any interest from your spouse. Of course, the "popular" once flannel robes and leggings with extended knees have already become a thing of the past, but there are still modern variations on this theme.
Step 5
Add variety to family relationships and it is impossible to completely erase it from life. Talk about sex - what is desirable and acceptable. Watch beautiful erotic films to light up a little and remember the seduction, games and long foreplay. Often spouses complain that everything is becoming commonplace and boring in this delicate and delicate matter, but it is in your power to introduce elements of play, flirting, intrigue, i.e. turn on fantasy.
Step 6
Make pleasant and unexpected surprises from time to time. They do not have to be expensive and chic, you can bring rose petals in an unusual way, and beat a box of chocolates so that it will be remembered for a long time. The main thing is that it should be done with love.
