People who, by virtue of their profession, deal with truthful and false statements, psychologists, investigators, lawyers and even experienced educators, over time, recognize deception automatically without analyzing. If you want to master the same skills to avoid becoming a victim of fraud, or simply because you are tired of trusting those who constantly cheat you, you will have to practice. First of all, it is worth learning to recognize liars by the direction of their gaze.
Lie recognition by gaze direction is based on the theory of Richard Bandler and John Grinder, first presented by them in the book "From Frogs to Princes: Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP)". According to her, people reflexively look in different directions when they remember and when they invent. It is necessary to distinguish between kinesthetic, auditory and visual memories or imagined images. When you ask a question regarding a visual image, for example, "What color is the wallpaper in your room?", The person involuntarily recalls the "picture" in his memory and looks to the right and up. If you ask "What is the expression of the muzzle of a crimson dog?", The interlocutor will have to fantasize for himself a "portrait" of such an unusual animal, and he will unconsciously turn his gaze up and to the left. Therefore, if you suddenly ask a liar who offers to sell you a non-existent house in the village, what colors his gates are painted in, coming up with an answer, he willy-nilly will look up and to the left. The partner who told you the “fable” about the night meeting will turn their eyes there, if you dumbfounded him with the question “What tie was your neighbor wearing at the negotiating table?” When evoking auditory memories, people look to the right. So the gaze of your interlocutor will glide in this direction for a split second if you ask him to remember a phrase from the film. When a person comes up with something that he supposedly heard, he looks to the left. Ask the kid what his mother told him when she allowed him to take another candy from the closet and he, "remembering" a non-existent conversation, will look exactly there. When it comes to any sensations, smells, for example, people look down. "Do you remember the smell of the sea breeze?" - you ask, and your interlocutor, at least for a moment, will lower his gaze to the left. The liar, who will be asked what kind of eau de toilette smelled of his friend, with whom he stayed all night playing chess, will look to the right. Of course, if the person is left-handed, he will look in a mirror image. Remembering visual images up and to the left, auditory - to the right, kinesthetic - down and to the right. Keep in mind that liars can also train, rehearse their stories for a long time, and therefore they can only be confused by unexpected questions.
