Many parents who have two or more children face the same problem: their children cannot get along with each other. However, if you try, you can teach your children to love each other and not fight for primacy.
Many parents ask themselves how to end the constant scandals and quarrels between their children when they once again hear, for example, the following phrase: “I wish I didn’t have a brother.” In such situations, usually young mom and dad begin to force children to love each other. They buy them one toy for two, put them in the same room, try to make sure that the kids spend more time together.
Causes of children's quarrels
The relationship between children can be influenced by their age difference, their number and even gender. It is very important to note that children inherit not only the genetic traits of their parents, but also try in every possible way to imitate their behavior. And if you - mom and dad - constantly loudly try to sort out your relationship, do not expect that your children will quietly, peacefully and affectionately communicate with each other. Family relationships affect children very strongly.
Another significant cause of hatred and quarrels between kids can be ordinary jealousy. Children often “divide” their parents. And quarrels arise over who gets the most attention from mom and dad. People at a very young age begin to attract attention, and when you approach one child, another begins to be jealous.
They also start to share the toys you donated with quarrels and fights.
What can be done to prevent children from quarreling?
In order to take the first steps towards reconciliation of children, you need to sweat a lot. Find out the reason for the fights, talk with each child about his brother or sister. Give each child their own time. Yes, it's hard to find it, but it could be a trip to the store with mom, or a trip with dad. In this moment, when you are alone, your little one can tell you everything.
Listen to him, show him your love. And this moment can bring a lot of joy to your child.
Never let your children sort out their quarrel for themselves. We need to teach them to respect each other's desires and find a way of reconciliation not through fights. For example, you can ask your child to write something for each other on a piece of paper or, if they are very young children, draw a picture or make each other a little surprise.
Also, in the fight against childish egoism, the “take turns” technique helps. It is worth noting that you cannot compare babies with each other. After all, when one does not want to do something, you always want to tell him: "But your brother …". You don't have to do that. To avoid comparison, do not give children the same job, assignment. If it happens that they are quarreling, they should not live in the same room. Do not try to force children to love each other, because in this case, you can only aggravate the real feelings of the children. Feelings are temporary, they will pass. Only with your efforts will the children begin to respect and play with each other without quarreling.
