Everyone wants to be part of a loving couple, and every loving couple has some disagreements, sometimes argues and even quarrels. Some conflicts lead to a better understanding of each other, others arise from scratch and no one then can remember how it all started? Can you love without quarreling? Anyway, you can try.
Necessary
Love and understanding
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, mutual respect for each other and for the point of view of the other. Never raise your voice, be angry, call names, or label someone else. As soon as you start screaming, the constructive conversation ends.
Step 2
Resolve differences by trying to find a way out that is acceptable to both parties. A happy couple knows that the purpose of the conversation is to figure out what's going on and how to deal with it, not to get someone right. If your loved one is upset, you should strive to understand what is wrong with them, not win the argument. Find a compromise.
Step 3
Do not blame your partner, do not be angry with him, but look for a way out of this situation. If your loved one makes a mistake, think together how to fix it, rather than blame him for his mistake.
Step 4
Think that your partner loves you. Do not assume the worst, do not think that he intends to offend or offend you, that he deliberately brings you to tears. Think that there is some misunderstanding between you, and both of you are interested in resolving it. Positive thoughts lead to positive results.
Step 5
Appreciate not only what you have in common, but also that you are two different people. There is nothing wrong with feeling a kind of disappointment that your partner does not always think and act as you think or would do. However, he is not you. And for that you love him too.
Step 6
In conflict situations, try to maintain a sense of humor. If you are able to argue about something with a smile, you cannot quarrel.
Step 7
Stop arguing if you feel like you are losing control of yourself. Sometimes it is better to cool down and look at a situation without emotion than to discuss something in an increasingly tense environment.
Step 8
Listen to your partner. Active listening is about not thinking about your own arguments while the other person is presenting their point of view. After the partner has spoken, briefly repeat what he said, ask if you understood him correctly. Show your loved one - “I am listening to what you are saying to me. That's important for me.
