When starting a family, we usually do not think about whose leadership qualities are stronger. We are ruled by love, passion and the desire to live our whole life next to the chosen one. But it happens that, faced with the first family problems, we cannot quickly determine our place, our responsibilities and our role in the family. Nevertheless, this must be clarified as early as possible in order to avoid quarrels and various unpleasant consequences.
Instructions
Step 1
Despite the ancient traditions, following which a man should become the head of the family and build a family life according to his convictions, nowadays more and more women take control of the "family ship". Soberly assess your character and the character of your spouse. If your husband is a leader by nature, then you should not dispute his primacy in the family, this will not lead to good. Give him the place of the head of the family, because in addition to a few privileges, it also carries many worries and responsibilities. But it also happens that the character of a man is calm and modest, in this case he himself easily transfers his powers of the head to his wife. There are also such families in which equality and mutual respect prevail. This "ideal" can be extremely difficult for some couples to achieve.
Step 2
Even if the head of your family is a man, this does not deprive you of the right to participate in important family processes. Often, a man only makes the impression of a family leader on those around him, while in fact he is pushed to everything by an intelligent and cunning wife. With the right policy, even an obstinate man will do what you want, and he will be sincerely sure that all his actions depend only on him. What is needed for this? First, always maintain your husband's confidence that he is the rightful boss in your family. Show him that you need him, that without him you will not be able to cope with anything, then your husband will help you. Do not be afraid to seem weak, in every man there is a condescension towards the female sex. Praise your husband if he fulfilled any of your instructions, even the smallest. Men are partial to praise, even if they don't show it outwardly. Do not wait for help, but ask yourself for your spouse to help you.
Step 3
If you do decide to take the lead, this is also your right. But do not forget that it is very difficult for a woman leader, because she must not only control family life, but also fulfill maternal and household responsibilities. It will be doubly difficult if you are also making a career for yourself at the same time. Women, who are the main ones in the family, often become like men, adopt their traits - rigidity and even rudeness, because they have to shoulder so much on their shoulders. At the same time, their husbands often lose interest in them, since they do not receive tenderness, kindness, affection and care. Their natural instinct of a getter, breadwinner, and owner is also involuntarily suppressed.
Step 4
The best option is to achieve family equality. Important decisions must be made mutually. Let care, mutual respect and mutual support reign in the family. In such a favorable family climate, husband and wife become more confident in themselves and in their capabilities, they strive for new heights, because they know that they have support. In an equal family, everyone fulfills their responsibilities.
Step 5
Whatever type of family relationship you choose for yourself, the main thing is that you are happy together, so that you enjoy living (and not surviving) together. Therefore, the sooner you determine your place in the family, the calmer and happier your life together will be.
