Unfortunately, sometimes feelings fade away. But, if you have been with your partner for a long time, going through fire, water and copper pipes, it is only natural that after the end of the novel you will want to remain friends with him.
Instructions
Step 1
If you are sure that the feelings are gone, you must honestly admit this to your partner. Do not provoke him with your actions to leave you, do not wait for him to guess, but take the first step on your own, taking the blame on yourself. If you had any reasons to stop loving your spouse, name them (of course, if they are not too offensive to your partner).
Step 2
If you are refused an offer to remain friends, do not rush to get upset. Also, you should not constantly remind your ex-lover or sweetheart about your friendly intentions, constantly calling and offering to go to a cafe - this behavior can be regarded as wrong. Let the person go, let them get over your breakup.
Step 3
While you are not socializing, you should not tell your friends how disgusting your ex or ex was. First of all, it discredits you in the eyes of others. And such behavior will clearly not contribute to the establishment of friendly relations.
Step 4
Try to build friendships a year or two after your breakup. Just call and tell me as it is: that you missed and would like to see you. At the first meeting, avoid talking on personal topics, because it is not known how your ex will react to this. Better discuss books, films, studies, career development for each of you.
Step 5
There are former lovers who can easily discuss relationships with each other with their current partners, sincerely sympathize and give advice. If you want you to have the same friendship, try to subtly ask your new friend how he is doing on a personal front, or complain about problems with a friend of the opposite sex. If your ex is talking about this topic and giving you advice, then everything is in order. If you notice that this conversation is unpleasant for him, it is better to move to neutral topics.
