For some, divorce is the collapse of an important part of their life, for others it is the beginning. But both of them in the overwhelming majority believe that both spouses are to blame for the divorce.
Why are both guilty
Something serves as an impetus, a trigger for a small, but then ever deeper crack to occur in the family bowl. Even if this crack is the result of the behavior of one of the spouses, the other is to blame for either encouraging or letting the situation take its course. Not always, to be guilty, you have to do something, sometimes it is enough not to do it. Especially if you know what will happen next.
However, divorced couples, as a rule, comprehend the degree of their own guilt years later. This gives an invaluable experience, because remarriages generally break up less often or do not break up at all.
When one is to blame
Cases when one can objectively say that one person is to blame should be very revealing. For example, treason or beatings. However, the first option is not particularly successful, because the partner is pushed to the very fact of betrayal by an acute lack of attention, affection, warmth or understanding. And it is not necessarily a matter of physical contact, sometimes it becomes just banal and even an accidental result of a search for spiritual warmth on the side. A person, not receiving something in the family, is doomed to fill the void and therefore will look for it outside the family.
And the result of this chronic shortage is misunderstanding. One of the spouses may well understand what the other is missing, but simply not want to listen to it or be aware of it. It also happens that this is not given importance. Often, the understanding of what happened comes when it's too late.
Sometimes the immaturity of a person as a person pushes for treason. Family is another stage of the relationship and the fact that it takes more effort and, perhaps, seems less romantic, should be taken calmly, and not rushed to look for it on the side.
Physical impact is, perhaps, the only thing that is always to blame for one person, the one who manifests himself in this way.
Assault is an anomaly, so if a wife leaves her beating husband, she is right. No matter how a woman behaves, this is not a reason to beat her and shift the blame onto her.
This is the only reason for divorce, in which only one of the partners is to blame.
