In ancient times in Russia, the matchmaking rite was of great importance for lovers and their parents. Without the parental blessing, the wedding could not have happened, the parental word was so highly valued. Modern brides and grooms, as a rule, make their own decisions about their future marriage. But according to tradition, young people still go to visit the girl's parents to ask for the hand of their daughter.
Instructions
Step 1
Study the history of the issue. Even if you don’t get anything useful for yourself, at least you’ll have fun reading about the old rituals. Previously, the groom did not go to his future father-in-law with his mother-in-law on his own; If you are confident in the sense of humor of your girlfriend's parents, you can jokingly use this and other old phrases.
Step 2
Discuss in advance with the bride how and in what setting you will ask her parents for her hand. If funds allow, book a table in a cafe or restaurant and invite your future father-in-law and mother-in-law there. If you have to make do with the economy option, tell them that you will come to visit.
Step 3
Prepare gifts for future relatives. Ask your girlfriend what is best to present to her parents. Good alcohol will always be appropriate (wine for the mother of the bride, cognac for the father), flowers for the ladies and, perhaps, some kind of souvenir to the house. A special effect on the older generation will be produced by the engagement ring, which you will put on your bride's hand when you receive consent to marry. This ring can be with or without precious stones, but it must be gold.
Step 4
In a solemn atmosphere, at the table, stand up and address the girl's parents by name and patronymic. Say that you love their daughter, want to marry her, and ask their permission. You can use the classic address to the bride's father: "I ask your daughter's hands and hearts."
Step 5
After a positive answer is given (traditionally, the father should take his daughter by the hand and put her hand in the open palm of the groom), tell your parents a little about the wedding you are planning. Agree on the next stage of the engagement: introducing the bride's parents to your parents, if they haven't seen each other yet.
