If you have firmly decided that you want to marry this particular girl, it's time to ask for your hand and heart. In old novels and films, this procedure is usually described and shown very beautifully: the groom kneels down, holding a ring with a diamond in his hand, the parents of the embarrassed bride carry images to bless the young. And how is it supposed to ask for the hand of a girl in the modern world? Should her parents and other relatives be notified? On this score, a certain set of rules has developed in society in the last decade.
Instructions
Step 1
To begin with, carefully find out the opinion of your chosen one regarding marriage. Even if you want to surprise her. It is unlikely that you will want in response to "Marry me!" hear: "I'm sorry, I'm not ready yet." Therefore, casually start conversations with the girl about marriages and couples in advance in order to find out her point of view on this matter. It is best to talk about mutual acquaintances so that she does not prematurely guess what she is about to hear.
Step 2
If you want to ask the hand of the chosen one in a romantic setting, prepare everything in advance. Pick a day where you both won't be tired, ideally a day off. Create an appropriate setting: for example, cook dinner or take the girl to a restaurant, where a table with candles and soft music will be waiting for her. If possible, get out of town on weekends so that nothing distracts you from an important event. And of course, while you are making an offer, turn off your phones so that the ringing of your mobile does not ruin the magic of the moment. If you want to keep the traditions, you can stand in front of the chosen one on one knee and give her a box with a ring, saying "Marry me." However, many go the other way: they throw the ring into a glass of champagne, when the girl turns away or goes out, or hides it in a dish.
Step 3
In the event that a girl is attached to a family or lives with her parents, it is better to ask her father for her daughter's hand in marriage. Here you can also act in two ways. The first is to notify both the girl and her parents in advance about this formality. Come smartly dressed for a gala dinner, bring gifts to the future father-in-law and mother-in-law. Of course, the bride will need to wear an engagement ring on her finger. Option two - a surprise engagement. However, dumbfounded the parents of the chosen one with the words "I ask your daughter's hand" is only if you have known them for a long time and they fully approve of your union.
