If you and your beloved decided to legalize the relationship, then it would be prudent on your part to show respect for your girlfriend's parents and ask for their blessings. Now the tradition of asking the bride's hand is not always followed. Young people make decisions about marriage on their own. However, asking the parents for the daughter's hand is, first of all, a sign of respect and a sign of good upbringing.
Instructions
Step 1
Prepare to meet the bride's parents. Pay attention to your appearance. Wear clean, tidy clothes. Traditionally, you can wear a suit and tie, suitable shoes. Find out from your beloved the tastes of her parents in order to buy small gifts: flowers for the future mother-in-law, a bottle of wine for the future father-in-law. You can also bring sweets to the table. Decide if you will give the ring to the girl at the meeting with the parents. If yes, then buy it in advance, knowing the desired size of the bride's finger. In order not to be mistaken with the size, imperceptibly for your beloved, circle the ring, placing it on paper, and then contact a jeweler.
Step 2
Come to the meeting with the bride's parents on time. If you are shy and modest in conversation, you can take a friend-matchmaker with you, whose task will be to present you in a favorable light and tell all the good things. Say hello to the bride's father with a strong handshake, and give the mother a beautiful bouquet.
Step 3
Most likely, you will be invited to a laid table. In the process of communication, you must definitely thank the girl's parents for such a wonderful daughter. You can list good qualities and virtues and say that you love. Tell your parents that you intend to legalize your relationship with their daughter and ask for their blessing for the marriage. You can, having paid tribute to tradition, ask for the bride's hand, despite the fact that you have already made a decision. This will be a sign of respect for your parents.
Step 4
If you decide to ask the bride's hand in public, then the guests and the girl's parents gather at one of the parties, in a restaurant or other public place. In this case, it is necessary to prepare a speech, at the end of which, put a ring on the bride's finger as a sign of engagement. Don't forget about bouquets of flowers for the girl and her mother.
Step 5
You can give an engagement ring to a girl, both with your parents, and at another suitable moment when you propose to her. The tradition of giving such a gift came to us from the west. According to the rules, an engagement ring is worn only before the wedding, after which it is replaced with an engagement ring. If the marriage is strong, the first ring can be inherited in the future. One way or another, in our country there are no clear rules regarding wearing a ring donated during an engagement: sometimes it continues to be worn on the other finger during marriage or is worn at family celebrations.
