Tell me, ladies and gentlemen, have you ever cheated on any of you? What do I hear? Amicable - less!
Don't be so overconfident! Perhaps you just lack observation.
It is necessary
- observation
- a wish
- patience
Instructions
Step 1
Option 1 (aka the most straightforward)
Get into the phone (email, pockets, wiretap, hire a private detective, or follow up yourself). In short, there are a lot of options. All of them are bad for one thing - you violate the personal space of your half. If you don’t find anything, you will, of course, be pleased that you are faithful. But at the same time, it will not be easy to get rid of the sticky feeling of one's own dishonesty.
If you find something and show it to your partner, by the very way of finding out the truth, you will give a reason to throw in your face that you are disgusting because you read other people's letters, climb into your pockets and that in general "you never trusted me." Do you need it?
And finally, the most disgusting thing that can happen - your loved one can discover your act, being innocent of anything in front of you. Realizing that your suspicions and vile thoughts pushed you to spy, wiretap and dissect his phone, he will not be able to forgive you for this. And it will go away.
The question is: who will be to blame for all this? You yourself. Maybe not worth the risk?
Step 2
Exercise basic attentiveness. Does your husband tell you that he went hunting but forgot to bring a gun (jacket, boots, backpack)? Or, having gathered on a business trip for three days, did not take a change of underwear with you? Your girlfriend stayed overnight at a friend's house, and when she returned, she immediately climbed into the shower? She began to do a pedicure, although she had never visited beauty salons before, and considered burgundy varnish on her lower extremities to be the lot of poor and worthless "barbies"? Did she get her ears pierced, or did she wear half of all the jewelry she had on her? Or crawled out of adorable jeans and did not part with a red dress, which, well, hides nothing, nothing?
These are all bad symptoms. As well as in general, abrupt changes in your loved one. If suddenly your partner begins to love what he never loved, to be interested in what he always ignored or scolded, this is a classic of the genre. Alas.
Step 3
Listen. And listen carefully. If suddenly your girlfriend began to quote Kant, to distinguish Schubert from Schumann, and a couple of months ago she snorted towards the classics and philosophers in general, listened to Timati and Dima Bilan, the conclusions may be different. The first one is that a person just took care of himself and his self-development. It is worth rejoicing for her! But if she does not have new friends, the happiness of acquaintance with whom she is in a hurry to share with you, it is worth starting to worry about who is behind this spiritual growth of her and which carrot is hung at the end of her labyrinth on the way to knowledge?
Step 4
Love your partner. Feel it.
He hides his eyes. He turns off the phone when he comes home. Or, on the contrary, it does not stick out from SMS or a computer. She smiles mysteriously, sighs, looks at one point for a long time, hovering in the clouds … But to see it, you just need to love her. Know her. Desire her. If you care about her, you will feel her coldness or her lies.
If he is your half and his world and interests are close to you, understandable and dear, you simply will not let him go to the other. Because he's yours. Your loved one.
