It is not easy for a girl to take the first step towards starting a relationship. How to behave, how to check the intentions of your friend so as not to be mistaken, what words to say, in what setting, how to find a suitable case?
A few decades ago, girls could not even think about how to invite the guy to date. In those days, they only expected an initiative from a man. Confessing love to a guy herself, not to mention offering to date or live together, meant something wrong. However, behind the unwillingness to openly show their feelings for the guy, in fact, there was something completely different. First of all, it is the fear of what he might think of you. And the second is the fear of rejection.
Things have become a little easier nowadays. Girls and boys have become more self-confident, more open. But still, it is much easier to offer a serious relationship to a guy than to a girl. And the success of your idea depends on the correct approach to the upcoming event.
Find out his intentions
The best option, of course, would be to get an offer to date from the guy himself. But when you no longer have the strength to wait, you want some specifics, certainty in the relationship, you have to act on your own.
But don't be in a hurry. In order to be confident in your actions and not get rejected, prepare in advance.
Start by asking yourself the following questions:
1. Does he like you? What do you think?
2. Is he interested in you?
3. Do you have common topics of conversation?
4. Do you often give a reason for a quarrel? It is you yourself.
5. Is there something that annoys him about you? Are you ready to fix this?
6. What flaws have you found in it? Are you ready to put up with them?
7. What is this guy for? Just for a while, or would you like to start a family with him in the future?
The answers to these questions will let you know how much the guy you like would like to have a relationship with you, how good he is with you. Just answer honestly.
And now the most important question - what does your chosen one do for you? Does he do anything at all to please you, to please you, to cheer you up? How often does he call you, asks how you are doing and if he really wants to hear your story, maybe just out of politeness? You need to understand, feel what this guy needs you for.
And in this case, there are only two answers.
1. For a serious relationship.
2. For frivolous relationships.
There is no third answer.
In the first option, you don’t have to do anything at all, just continue to be yourself, just don’t spoil what you already have. There is something to improve - improve. And wait. Soon he himself will tell you the words that you are preparing for him.
In the second option, not everything is as good as in the first, but there is a great opportunity to take matters into our own hands.
First of all, become for him a necessary, important, irreplaceable person. So that he wants to see you, misses, waits for meetings with you.
How to help a guy understand that he needs you
Here are some recommendations on how to become the one and only girl for him.
- Look well groomed. You don't have to wear expensive clothes. But keep your clothes neat. Soft hands, manicure, pedicure. Clean hair.
- Ask him questions, take an interest in his life, or better yet, solve his problem. Only with words, not actions, otherwise you will get a man who will get used to the fact that his problems are solved by others. Help with advice, tell a fictional story about how your friend was and what helped him. Forget the instructive tone, you just tell the guy how you would do or how others did. It is important that the guy thinks that all decisions come from him and not from you.
- Ask about his mom, sister. Men are attached to their mothers and sisters, your boyfriend will be pleased that you are interested in his family.
- Tell him the news that interests him. Not about the neighbor from the fifth floor, but about what is happening in the world. Interested in politics? Show business? Football? Well then, start your day by reading the news on this topic, and tell him in the evening.
- Give him genuine compliments, praise him, show him how proud you are of him.
- Talk often about the qualities that you especially like about him.
- Touch his body more often with your hands, hair, lips. As if by accident. Such touches will leave pleasant sensations in the subconscious of a man, and he himself will not understand why he misses you so much. This body instructs the brain to repeat these sensations.
- Don't ask for anything in return. Don't expect anything in return. It is important. First, he will feel that you are not trying to bind him with a sense of duty, obligations, and men value freedom very much. Secondly, you can ask all the psychologists in the world, and they will confirm that when you don't wait, then you get it.
All this will take time, for everyone in different ways. If you just met a guy and already know that you would like to date no one, just put yourself in his place. How will he, after the first meetings, understand that you can become his girlfriend? Did you know that guys and men are also afraid to make mistakes? They are even more afraid of love and rejection than girls. So show him that he can put his whole life at your feet.
Well, what to do when a week, a month, two has passed, and your meetings are rare and you don't even understand yourself whether you are meeting or not?
There are five possible options:
1. The guy hasn't decided yet.
2. The guy has someone else, and he is undecided.
3. The guy has someone else, and he generally does not want a serious relationship yet.
4. He himself is waiting for the initiative from you.
5. He is one of those who can rarely meet for several years, but still will not move to the next level.
In all five options, you have a chance to take the first step and invite your boyfriend to date yourself.
The most effective ways to hint a man about a relationship
The main word here is "hint". Do everything in hints. Actions, emotions, feelings, but not direct words.
Themselves carefully translate the level of your dating to the level of relationships. For example, start visiting each other. If you come to a guy, show how neat you are. Do the dishes, buy food in advance, prepare a snack. Just don’t do general cleaning, you’re not his mistress yet. Until.
Find some verses about your beloved, about love, learn and read on a date, saying that he inspires creativity in you.
Think about relationships. Just say out loud somehow: “It seems to me, dear, you are perfect in everything. Lucky for your girlfriend. I would like to meet a man like you in my life. I wonder what he will answer.
Ask him for help. Only about something very simple, something that he can do. And then show him that you will definitely be lost without him.
Get caught up in the wave. If you propose to your boyfriend to date in a suitable setting. It could be a candlelit dinner, a romantic trip, in the car, with your boyfriend's favorite song playing. If you fall under his wave, under his mood, success awaits you.
Ask directly in the end: “I feel so good and interesting with you. I think we would make a great couple. What do you think?"
Most importantly, don't be assertive. You need to behave absolutely calmly, confidently.
So, try on the image of a beautiful, self-confident girl, the very one who has so much attention from men that she invites the only one to meet, but will not fall into despair.
Remember, girls who are aching and madly in love with a guy are repulsive. Follow the rule: "We love those who do not love us." Even if you're already in love, pretend to yourself that you don't really care. And the guy will feel this inner energy. Outwardly, you should appear cold and indifferent. But when you have already received yours, you can show your feelings as you want. But neat too. But that is another story.
