You can feel the onset of the crisis of three years in 2, 5, and 3, 5 years. This is determined by how independent your little one feels. After all, the main reason for a sharp change in a child's behavior is that he begins to clearly recognize himself as a separate person, and not part of a mother.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, try to look at the situation through the eyes of a child. Until a certain moment, he was almost completely dependent on his mother psychologically. The kid, of course, could show character and be mischievous sometimes, but when a dilemma "me or mom" arises, in most cases he joined his mother's opinion. But suddenly the little one begins to understand that he can already do a lot himself. Notices that adults can be manipulated, tries to try on the social roles that he sees in his environment. And the result of these feelings is that the child strenuously defends his "self" and independence.
Step 2
Don't put pressure on your child. The kid sees that he is still far from being able to do everything on his own, and besides, he constantly feels control and guardianship on the part of adults. All these factors lead to the emergence of an internal conflict-protest, which psychologists call the crisis of the age of three. And your pressure only makes the problem worse.
Step 3
Keep in mind that if the crisis manifests itself in a child very strongly, this is a sign that you yourself are too authoritarian or overprotect him. And, first of all, you need to reconsider your attitude towards the child. The main manifestations of the crisis: negativism, stubbornness, harm, "I myself", conflict, change in values, striving for "power." Even if your child showed all these signs, this does not mean that in the future they will flourish and develop. It just needs to be experienced, but experienced with the right attitude and reaction. Then everything will pass quickly enough.
Step 4
With signs of negativity, stubbornness, obstinacy, the main rule is to try to abandon the commanding tone and pressure. Give him an alternative that is acceptable to both of you, or simply divert attention and let go of negative emotions. After that, you will quickly find a common language. It is necessary to give the baby the opportunity to get out of the conflict situation with dignity. Of course, if you wish, you will overpower him, because the forces are not equal. But for the full development of the child's personality, it is necessary to make him feel that his opinion is taken into account, and he, too, can make some decisions.
Step 5
Parental patience is often not enough for the constantly emerging "I myself". But understand that it is very important for a three-year-old to feel independent. And even if you know that he himself will not cope, give him the opportunity to try and be convinced of it.
Step 6
If the baby regularly creates conflict situations, trying to achieve his goal, this is a test of the possibility of manipulation by the parents. Be understanding, but be firm in decisions if you are confident in the need for them. Explain to the baby what and why you are doing, be calm and benevolent.
Step 7
Try to give your baby more attention and love, so that he does not have the need to achieve this by "forceful methods", but show firmness where it is really needed. Manipulation can also be practiced when the baby strives for power in the family, especially if the parents indulge the child too much, or as a sign of jealousy.
