If at some point you realize that you have ceased to interest your man, that he is indifferent and cold with you, then you can already state the sad fact that you managed to miss and lose a lot. After all, this did not happen today or yesterday. But if you want to fight for your happiness in married life, then take action.
Instructions
Step 1
To begin with, try to discard all resentments, claims and ambitions and soberly assess the situation. If there was a cooling in the relationship, it means that something you could not understand in time and missed. If you do not agree with this and blame your husband for everything, then the specter of divorce is likely to be looming ahead of you, and you will return your husband's interest for a very short time - as a legal entity. But pulling your hair out, reveling in self-flagellation and self-accusations, is also not worth it. A humiliated and overwhelmed woman is not interesting to anyone.
Step 2
When you met your future husband and passionately wanted to marry him, you saw in him the desired object, his attractiveness, unusualness, superiority over others. What's up now? Do you still love him or are you disappointed in his merits? Try to look at your husband with the eyes of a loving woman. Return your attention to it. Just do not think that attention is meant only for everyday service. Of course, this is important in the family, but you want to be looked at as a woman.
Step 3
When meeting your husband, rejoice at his appearance, hug and say tender words. Even the most callous person needs affection.
Step 4
Do not reject your husband if he wants to get closer to you, tell you something, share his feelings and thoughts. Even if you are very busy, stop and listen. Go to meet him, learn to listen and understand. A beloved man should feel that if you are not there, then he lacks communication.
Step 5
Listen and delve into his affairs, try to understand how your husband lives, what he is interested in and show a sincere interest in his affairs. This does not mean that you should incessantly chat about what you do not yet understand, or pull your husband's tongue, demanding his reports. Doing this will make him bored or annoyed. Just show interest, because your husband is really the best at something!
Step 6
Do not cling to your husband and do not be annoying, much less try to control.
Step 7
Stop thinking about sex with your husband as a "duty" and "obligation" - find pleasure in it, get it yourself and give it to your husband.
Step 8
Take a critical look at yourself from the outside: how you began to look outwardly, what you wear, how you paint (if you paint at all), what is your hairstyle. Are you fatter and uglier? Wearing your grandmother's robe and pre-revolutionary slippers? Is there a bird's nest on your head? Well, who might be interested in that at all ?! Finally, change - find your virtues and emphasize them. Bring back a woman you can be proud of and show to people.
Step 9
Forget about depression, illness and problems. Don't drag your husband into a routine. The gray and boring days of life with you will turn a man's gaze in an unwanted direction for you.
Step 10
Take care of yourself. Bring your talents and dreams back to life, do what you love that interests you, from which your eyes shine and bright joy appears on your face. When you are interesting to yourself, you will see in front of you someone who is also interested in you.
