After women get married, they often focus only on housekeeping and raising children. At the same time, unfortunately, they narrow the circle of their interests and acquaintances, do not sufficiently deal with their appearance and personal development. And now comes such a critical moment when they suddenly notice that they have lost their former interest in their husband. What can you do to avoid facing a similar situation?
Instructions
Step 1
Try to assess your position soberly and without embellishment. Put yourself in your husband's shoes and look at your strengths and weaknesses from the outside. Does he see you the same as you were when you met? Is it interesting to him with you now? Do you behave correctly in various situations (when communicating, in intimate life, etc.)? If your thoughts have led you to the sad fact that your husband's attention has fallen, take action.
Step 2
First of all, try to come up with a new image to diversify your relationship. This is not difficult if you have magazines, movies, and the Internet. Take care of your appearance. If necessary, restore your figure, make it a rule to regularly take care of your skin, do not forget about the existence of cosmetics. If possible, sign up for some sports section, or at least start jogging in the morning.
Step 3
Revise your wardrobe and throw away all dull, cramped, unfashionable things without regret. Open magazines or the internet and see what people are wearing now. Shop for clothes and find what you need for your new look.
Step 4
The problem of losing interest in your husband can lie much deeper than your appearance. Are you interesting as an interlocutor, as a person who has some kind of "zest"? Remember that there are a million things to do besides standing in the kitchen and cleaning the premises. You can learn to paint, take pictures, sing, dance, drive a car, speak French, etc. Read more and educate yourself. Firstly, it is better than "soap" series in the morning, and, secondly, new, unbroken topics will appear in your joint conversations with your husband.
Step 5
Become a good conversationalist for your husband. Talk to him about your feelings and thoughts more often. Learn to listen to him carefully. Show interest in his affairs and problems. If you show that you are able to be not only a housewife with limited intellect, but also a woman who can listen, give good advice, you will not be worth it. Your husband, like all people, needs a person to whom you can express dissatisfaction with the state of affairs, “cry into your vest,” relieve tension, share joy or success, see a smile and understanding on the face of your interlocutor. Don't disappoint him with these expectations.
Step 6
Try to surprise your husband more often. It can be the simplest things, for example, an unusual candlelight dinner, a dazzlingly beautiful dress, some souvenir that would speak of your feelings …
Step 7
Do not "dwell" only on your husband. There are other people in the world, friends and girlfriends with whom it is interesting and useful to communicate. And you should make your soul mate a little jealous from time to time. Your husband should see that you are not only interesting to him.
Step 8
Try to find common interests and be together from time to time. For example, sometimes go with your husband to the park for a walk, to cafes or restaurants, to outings, to a bowling alley or to an ice rink. Or even soccer or boxing.
Step 9
Never let problems in your sex life go by themselves. Make it unexpected and varied. Forget about ailments and headaches. In the end, this is your beloved man, with whom you should not feel bad, as well as him with you.
