Psychologists often come across patients whose husbands have lost interest in them. In some cases, the behavior and attitude of a man changes, in others - they openly declare this. Many ladies want to rectify the situation and save the family. When such problems arise in a marriage, you need to sort them out and start acting.
Instructions
Step 1
First, understand one thing: not all marriage-saving measures are successful. So that it doesn't hurt even more later, keep in mind the possibility of a failed attempt. It is unlikely that a woman can one hundred percent know why a man has lost interest in her, even if he frankly confessed everything to her.
Step 2
You can be as angry with him as you want. But better understand what you want and why you need it. It is from these positions that you will build your action plans - they must be thought out. With this mindset, it will be easier for you to take every step of saving your marriage and see the results.
Step 3
Start with external changes. Refresh your wardrobe and hairstyle, lingerie and makeup style. Do not be afraid of radical changes, you must appear before your significant other in a completely new way. It often happens that a man gets so used to his woman that he simply ceases to notice all her virtues. The new image will interest and excite him.
Step 4
These changes may be sufficient if the problem of loss of interest was superficial. In the event that its causes are deeper, this will not be enough. Although a man may claim that he is tired of seeing the same thing, this in fact may mean that he just became uninterested in you. He may get tired of your inner content. In this case, get ready for internal changes.
Step 5
For the sake of experiment, put yourself in his place and look from the outside at your merits and demerits. Do you behave correctly in certain situations, is it interesting with you. Perhaps you will find points of application for your actions to change yourself - what needs to be developed and what should be abandoned. Prepare in this way for a conversation with your husband, so it will be easier to agree with those points that coincide with you.
Step 6
Talk to him seriously. Find out what exactly he is tired of, what he would like. How he sees a future together with you. How he imagines your habits, behavior, manners and activities. Let him express his wishes point by point.
Step 7
Become friendly, serious, and confident during the conversation. Don't act like a victim or an aggressor - this will not lead to anything good. Speak calmly and constructively - as if you both need the conversation. Do not let him understand that you want to satisfy his desires and indulge his whims. Construct the conversation in a way that shows that you are "curious" for your common good.
Step 8
Don't just focus on your flaws. Perhaps it was not just you who bored him, but he generally began to be burdened by family life. Maybe it’s hard for him to bear such responsibility, he cannot cope with it internally, and then it’s useless to change something. There are men who are not made for marriage.
Step 9
If this is your case, after the conversation, everything will be clear. You need to part and not look for reasons only in yourself. Well, if in the course of the conversation you understand that everything can be adjusted and keep the family - go for it. According to the plan you already have.
