Treason is unbearably painful, insulting, disgusting and annoying. And for someone - “Well, okay. The main thing is that he came home, brought his salary and loves children. Some believe that the connection on the side strengthens the marriage, and to be more precise, it adds heat to the relationship, reignites jealousy and passion. But in both cases, a third character appears in your bed - a rival, a mistress, a fleeting hobby, so to speak. Agree, there is little pleasant here. Having learned that your husband is cheating on you, do not rush to beat him with a rolling pin and throw things from the 10th floor, this is certainly funny, but take it seriously.
Instructions
Step 1
You caught your loved one of infidelity. Cry, scream, break something. But! The spouse should not see this. Let off the steam, let the obsession and rage subside. If you do not defuse the situation, things can lead to trouble.
Step 2
Now you need to find out with whom he is cheating on you. How long has he had an affair with a rival, is it a fleeting hobby, sex for one night or a close friend has managed to "put a pig on you." Who is this girl, how old is she, what does she do, how they met. Gathering information is an unpleasant thing, but it will help you better understand the reason for the betrayal and the strength of the bond that has arisen between your husband and a certain person.
Step 3
You know who she is. Based on the "dossier" of this lovemaker, draw conclusions: the spouse gave up slack and fell at the feet of the beauty, whether your chosen one was "divorced", maybe this is a non-binding relationship. The most bitter thing will be to learn that the romance lasts a long time, and there is no end in sight. This means that your man is in love with another girl.
Step 4
Take the hard step. Tell me you know the truth. Tell not only your husband, but also his mistress, let her tuck her tail for a while. You were lied to - this is the reason why you are angry, your feelings betrayed - this is the reason for your aggression, you were exchanged - this is the reason that drives you to the very bottom and crushes with a stone so that you do not have the strength to rise. Ask for an explanation and answers to all your questions. Listen to the person calmly.
Step 5
If your husband is cheating because he loves another, but does not leave out of pity for you, let go and give a kick to speed up. You do not need to be pitied, you are a wonderful, incomparable, charming, strong woman. If he didn’t appreciate it, this is not your prince. If the reason was stuck life and “coolness in the bedroom”, but he is in no hurry to part. The question arises: "Do you now want the continuation of this union?" In situations that are called "on a drunken head - it's not my fault", it's up to you whether to execute or pardon.
Step 6
Forgive your spouse. Whether you make up or run away - it doesn't matter, just forgive the person. Everyone is wrong. Someone draws a lesson from this and regrets what they have done, while others take it for granted. You also need to understand that the betrayal has already been committed, the action is over, the curtain. Let go of negativity and bad thoughts. Saying: “I will never forgive you!”, You will never forget the initial pain that hurt you.
Step 7
Now make a decision. The first option is to save the family, build relationships, start over. The second is to get divorced. Trying to save the marriage for the sake of the children, for the sake of oneself, is possible only in a situation where treason is justified. Otherwise, you will only torment yourself and your loved ones.
