"How to find a groom for your daughter?" - This question is asked by many parents as soon as their daughter reaches puberty. This is a very difficult and lengthy process, since any good parent wants his daughter to find not just a “man by her side”, but someone who will become a real support for her, with whom she can live happily ever after, “in sorrow and joy "…
How they could look for a groom for their daughter before
A few decades ago, the choice of a groom for a daughter was entirely up to the parents. They looked closely at what family this or that young man was, whether he had a place to live, how educated he was, what kind of income he had, what bad habits. And the men themselves were completely different then. We can say that they fainted at the sight of a bare female leg and did not demand practically anything from the lady of their heart. Now everything is different.
Most often, guys from the past only needed a hostess in the house, a faithful life companion who could give birth to them children.
What to look for when choosing a groom for your daughter
First, you need to take a closer look at his family. As you know, people take all models of behavior from their childhood, and if the chosen one of your daughter has friendly relations with her parents, most likely he will build his own family according to the same principle. Nevertheless, sometimes there are cases that, for example, absolutely nondrinking children grow up in a family of alcoholics. Unfortunately, this is very rare, and usually people build a family more or less similar to the one in which they grew up.
Deliberately changing the template can cause mistakes that bring mutual pain.
Secondly, jealousy is an important aspect. Of course, at the initial stage, jealousy is pleasant, but over time it can develop into total control and scandals. This is clearly not what you would like for your daughter. If a young man who claims to be the groom is too insecure and jealous of his girlfriend for every pillar, nothing good will come of it in the future.
Third, people with different interests rarely form a harmonious union. Of course, there is a common phrase "opposites attract", but you probably would not really want your smart and well-read daughter to communicate with a fan of Formula 1 and auto racing? Will it be easy for you to realize that she or your grandchildren will be in the car with him?
Only equal people can have a long, happy and harmonious family. With similar levels of education, temperaments, interests. If your daughter sees a person's flaws and hopes to remake him, she should remember that changing an adult's personality is impossible.
Of course, love is a very pleasant feeling, but it seems to give you rose-colored glasses for rent, and after creating a family, it brutally rips them off. After that, disappointment ensues, since before marriage partners usually show each other only the best qualities, and after marriage the full picture is revealed. However, if you understand that the guy is not your daughter's mate, but she desperately claims that she cannot imagine her life without him, it is better not to resist her decision, otherwise your daughter will blame you for destroying her love all her life.
