A person has many reasons to experience negative emotions towards the people around him. Sometimes it may seem that anger is justified: you have been offended, and you are defending yourself. But psychologists say that the root of any evil is in oneself, in dissatisfaction with oneself.
Instructions
Step 1
In rare cases, a person does something unpleasant to others for the sake of his own pleasure or out of curiosity. The most common reason is our irritation, personal troubles. It happens that we ourselves, unwittingly, cause pain to others. But the reason, as usual, lies deeply, namely in the person himself. Psychologists say that in others we are irritated only by what is in ourselves. What is not in a person is not reflected on him. So, in moments of anger, first of all, you need to find its root in yourself.
Step 2
Once again, irritated, look back at your life, your actions. Be as honest with yourself as possible, and you will remember the same "sins" in yourself that caused you such resentment in others. Do not worry too much about this, because no one is perfect. It is important how you use this knowledge in the future. Keeping your mistakes in mind makes it easier to forgive others. Watch yourself. Are you always happy with yourself? Do you often allow yourself to relax? Then why should people around you have to be perfect with you? They are always your reflection. Therefore, people respond to your rudeness with the same "language."
Step 3
And in order to avoid conflicts, negativity, one must always remember one very important point: attention. First of all, to others. Repeated experiments have shown that words with good intentions help even plants to be strong and sturdy. Therefore, be attentive to others. Smile, compliment. You will see people will be grateful to you. Try to find something pleasant in everyone you meet. In general, people tend to discuss disasters, catastrophes, and complain about life. But does it make them happier? And you yourself are hardly pleased to communicate with such. Therefore, it is better not to be a whiner and look for positive aspects in everything. Then no one will want to do evil, and people will be drawn to you.
