Many mothers face a big chasm of misunderstanding on the part of their daughter when she turns 15-16. This abyss can lead to the fact that the daughter will not trust her mother with her secrets and ask her for advice. We offer you some tips that will help a mother understand that her daughter has already grown up and needs not only the standard “dress-learn-feed”, but also a frank conversation.
Instructions
Step 1
Find out your daughter's social circle to understand her mood.
Step 2
Ask what your daughter is thinking about, what topics she is interested in. It is possible that what you hear may shock you. However, you must remember that the reason for your shock lies in the fact that you missed something in raising your daughter.
Step 3
Do not criticize your daughter for spending a lot of time in front of the mirror. In adolescence, girls usually feel "ugly" against the backdrop of beauties from magazines. Help your daughter find her own beauty by buying her natural beauty products. Go to the beauty salon with her.
Step 4
You must clearly understand that your daughter will take an example from you. She firmly believes that her mother is energetic, strong, beautiful and interesting. But, if you are deeply stuck in your own affairs, your daughter will not be able to talk to you or discuss her problems.
Step 5
Do not follow your daughter's whims if, for example, she does not like what you bought her. It is possible that she has seen enough of magazines and wants her wardrobe to be equipped with the latest fashion. Explain to your daughter that fashion is not always beautiful. Show her the clear difference between fashion flashes and style.
Step 6
The daughter developed bad habits, but no one smokes or drinks in the family? Know that she has succumbed to the influence. Do not make scandals, but try to talk frankly with her. Let her tell you why she tried a cigarette or alcohol, and then explain to her all the negative aspects of any bad habits.
Step 7
During adolescence, girls show a particular interest in the opposite sex. Many parents are reluctant to discuss the topic of relationships between girls and boys. In order not to reproach yourself for silence, talk to your daughter, ask how she treats boys. And, if she tells you about her sympathy for a certain boy, calmly tell her how to build a relationship at her age. Prove to her that you understand her, because in this case she will not lie to you. Reassure her that it is best to discuss sexual relations with you, not with a boyfriend or friends.
Step 8
The teenager must have a certain amount of pocket money. Give your daughter the right to choose what she will spend her pocket money on. If her money runs out, but desires remain, teach your daughter how to plan her expenses.
Step 9
If your daughter communicates with you as a friend, do not insist on changing the relationship, because such an attitude suggests that she sees a loved one in you. Remember that constantly saying “I'm your mom” can end a relationship.
Step 10
Do not try to remake your daughter to suit your wishes and needs. For example, if you dreamed of playing the guitar, do not try to force your daughter to learn to play this instrument. Remember that the result will be aggression on the part of your daughter.
