To live separately from parents and independently establish their own way of life is a normal desire of any adult. However, parents do not always support the desire of children to leave.
Why do parents keep their grown children up?
Over the years, parents get so used to living together with their children that the child's desire to move away from the parents is perceived by the latter, to put it mildly, with hostility. Mothers are especially attached, who are so used to taking care of their child and protecting him that even an adult child is still considered small and helpless. Especially suspicious mothers, having heard the desire of a daughter or son to live separately, can immediately draw for themselves terrible scenarios for the further development of events from a banal hunger to falling into sexual slavery.
Another reason why some parents do not let go of their adult children is the fear of loneliness. Most often, this fear haunts single mothers. It may seem to them that with the move of the child, their life will fade, become boring and meaningless. If a son or daughter moves in with their significant other, some mothers even feel jealous.
How to prepare your parents for your move
If you decide to move from your parents, you will have to prepare them in advance for this. Of course, some parents calmly let their children go into adulthood, but more often you can face rejection of such a decision. In this case, you need to understand what exactly worries the parents. If they think you are not yet independent enough, explain that you can do a great job of cooking and cleaning without assistance. Tell your parents about your earnings, convince them that this is enough for you. So that parents do not worry too much, give them your new address, leave the keys, let them come whenever they want. Promise that you will visit often. If mom and dad use the Internet, install Skype on their computer. So they can hear and see you every day.
Try to find benefits not only for yourself but also for your parents in your move. For example, mom can now cook less, an extra room will be freed up and more space will be available, your friends will no longer stay up late and make noise, etc. It's hard only at first, soon the parents will realize that they have fulfilled their parental duty, released the child into adulthood and from now on have every right to live for themselves.
If you have a desire to move from your parents, then you are already quite independent. However, it is important to remember that living in your apartment will be significantly different from living in your father's house. So, if you did not pay for utilities before, now you will have additional expenses, you will also have to monitor the timely repayment of these bills.
