The problem of fathers and children is an eternal problem. It is especially difficult with adolescents, because adolescence is the most unpleasant and difficult period. Yesterday's baby is faced with changes in the world, with difficulties, in addition, the changing hormonal background affects, secondary sexual characteristics appear, all this shocks the child.
Difficult relationships with oneself, with relatives and peers often baffle a teenager. If parents ignore and do not take into account these factors, do not notice changes in the child and do not take into account his needs, then communication between parents and adolescents can become difficult and even lead to disastrous results.
If the son has visible signs of problems in the form of bruises, how can parents help? It is clear that the bruises did not appear from the training that the child is attending. Meanwhile, children very often hide school or courtyard conflicts. Bruises are the first sign of possible danger, so parents need to seriously talk to their child. If the relationship between teens escalates, it can lead to serious injury and long-term treatment.
It is good if there is a man in the family who is an authority, he can help the teenager with his advice or actions. And it is quite difficult for a mother to cope in such a situation, because she cannot take on a male role. If the relationship between the parents and the child is not the warmest and most trusting relationship, then for help you can and should turn to a competent psychologist who will help you find a way out of the situation.
During adolescence, it is imperative to talk to the child. Explain to the child that you need to talk openly with opponents, ask directly what does not suit them. The usual words lead to another fight, as the teenagers are very violent. Is it worth the risk of physical and mental health in order to prove something? According to psychologists, the child needs to be explained that the whole reason is not in himself, not that he is somehow different, but in the offenders themselves. That confident, happy people will never offend others.
Teach your child to get out of the conflict using humor, not to react with aggression to aggression. If you see that the situation has become critical and you need help from outsiders, then do not delay it. It is also not worth worrying prematurely, otherwise the reputation of the teenager will suffer, and they react to it very painfully. If you constantly take care of your child, walk on his heels and constantly take care of him, then you risk completely losing all connection with him. The child must understand that he has a family behind him, which, if necessary, will always come to the rescue, in this case it is much easier for the child to survive a conflict situation with other people.
