Relationships with the parents of the other half do not always work out the way you would like. Especially when it comes to families with an only child in the person of your chosen one. There are some tricks that can help soften the negative attitude of his parents towards you.
Instructions
Step 1
Talk to your chosen one. Do not try to resolve the conflict yourself without consulting a man. This can lead to unintended consequences that you will regret in the future. When starting a conversation, do not make yourself a victim, do not use harsh language or blame the man himself. In the end, your problems in communication are not with him, but with his parents. Try to figure out together how you can solve the difficulties that have arisen.
Step 2
Meet with your parents and have a frank conversation. The best option for a meeting would be neutral territory. On it, you will be on an equal footing, and neither side will feel more confident or, conversely, weaker. You can make an appointment by inviting your chosen one to it. It is also possible that your man will not be with you, but he must be informed of your intentions.
Step 3
Don't start a conversation with accusations. Set a goal for yourself to reach an agreement that is acceptable to all. Try to immediately identify common interests. Demonstrate to your parents that you, just like them, want their son extremely well, convince them that you also want to take care of him.
Step 4
Find out why your parents are unkind to you after a common platform for conversation is outlined. First, however, voice your concerns. You can emphasize that it is extremely important for you to further develop your relationship with their son, so you think that a friendly atmosphere should also exist when communicating with parents.
Step 5
Listen to your parents, try to understand what exactly does not suit them. However, this does not mean that you should immediately change to suit their requirements. You don't have to agree with anything they say just out of courtesy. In the end, you have to live with your chosen one, and not with them. At the same time, if there are any nuances that will not be difficult for you to get rid of, inform about your intention to eliminate them.
Step 6
Come to a general agreement. The outcome of your conversation should be a solution to the problem. It can consist in revising any aspects of your communication, in giving up something, in limiting the time of communication, etc. The more the agreement satisfies both parties, the easier it will be for you to communicate in the future.
