In life, every now and then there are situations when you need to refuse a person. Many are afraid to offend with their refusal and agree contrary to their interests. There are some easy ways to refuse without sounding rude.
Instructions
Step 1
First, grasp one truth: you do not have to make excuses for your refusal, even if it is a refusal to a loved one. The more you helplessly make excuses, the more you risk ruining your relationship with the person. If you are so distressed, why then refuse? Such a discrepancy is incomprehensible to the person whom you refused, and offends him more than the very fact of the refusal. Give a reason only if it really exists and is serious.
Step 2
Sometimes the most honest option is to say a straightforward "no", but it's better to do it in a gentle way. For example: “no, I cannot do this,” “no, I prefer not to do this,” “no, I have no free time right now.” Perhaps the interlocutor will begin to provoke and persuade you, but you stand your ground, not getting involved in the discussion.
Step 3
A milder form of refusal is to show participation and understanding of the interlocutor's problem. If a person presses on pity, you can calmly listen to him, sympathize and refuse. For example: “I understand that you are very tired, but I cannot fulfill your request”, “this is a really serious problem, but I cannot solve it”, “I understand how hard it is for you, but I cannot help in this situation.
Step 4
There is one trick called delayed rejection. It is suitable for those people who do not know how to refuse at all. She is also good to buy time and think a little, weigh the pros and cons. You just need to ask the asking person for some time to think. It can be expressed something like this: "I do not exactly remember all my plans for tomorrow", "I want to consult with …", "I need to think", "I cannot say right away." If you are a trouble-free person, try to use this technique always.
Step 5
There are situations in which you need to partially refuse. State your terms, what you agree to and what you don’t. This happens if you really want to help with something in a particular situation, but the person is asking too much. You can answer: "I am ready to help with …, but not …", "I will not be able to come every day, but I can do it on Thursday and Saturday", "I will give you a lift, but if you come without delay." If you do not agree to any of the conditions offered to you, but sincerely want to help a person, ask: "Maybe I can help in something else?"
Step 6
Sometimes you really want to help, but you don't know how. If this is the case, try looking for options with the person asking. Perhaps it will really be in your power to do something. You can also refuse and immediately offer help in finding a specialist who will definitely be able to help in resolving this issue.
