There are many reasons why a man leaves: a desire to diversify a sex life, to regain a sense of freedom, a lack of emotional attachment and love. Representatives of the stronger sex return if the separation did not lead to the achievement of the desired result. The reason can be jealousy, a feeling of loneliness, awareness of their feelings.
Women often do not understand why men first leave and then decide to return. Most often, the explanation is simple - your partner realized how comfortable and comfortable it was with you. Sometimes he needs time to understand that there is love, there is a risk of losing his woman. In such situations, the main rule is not to pay attention to the advice of others, friends, parents. This can cause you to make gross mistakes for which you will blame yourself.
The most common reasons why a man returns
Often, such an action is based on a banal comparison. A man changes partners after parting, looking for the same relationship that was before. Over time, the desire for new adventures and experiences goes away. He understands that no one will love him like that anymore. In this case, the return to former lovers is often due to the usual selfishness. You need to be prepared for the fact that after a while he will again go in search of a new victim.
The second reason is jealousy. Men are owners by nature. Only a few forget about their beloved after parting. Many continue to trace her life to the smallest detail. When a new young man appears on the horizon, jealousy appears in a woman's life, a desire to regain her "property". The former young man begins to struggle again, to strive. The new boyfriend is perceived as a rival. At such times, romance, tenderness and care wake up. As soon as the partner manages to achieve his goal, he leaves again with a sense of pleasure.
Reasons for re-evaluating your life and past relationships
Sometimes a difficult stage begins in a man's life. At this time, he will not be looking for a new love, he just needs to reassess everything that happened to him. In this case, the representatives of the stronger sex really experience a feeling of remorse. They are:
- honestly explain the reason for their departure;
- sincerely ask for forgiveness;
- ready not only in words, but also in actions to prove their love.
In such a situation, a "reboot" of relations occurs. Vivid emotions can appear in them. A couple can begin to travel, introduce new details into their intimate life.
If a man leaves a family with children, and the experience of marital relations is not a year or two, then the reason for his return may lie in the realization of his loneliness. The feeling of freedom very quickly gets boring, there is a longing for home, for your children and wife.
Sometimes the reason for separation is a mistake, which takes time to realize. A short amount of time is enough for negative emotions to fade into the background, common sense prevails. In this case, the return often begins with an apology, a heart-to-heart talk.
Middle age crisis
Another reason families break up very often is the midlife crisis. Men tolerate it much more difficult than women. It occurs between the ages of 35 and 55 and is associated with a reassessment of one's experience. The rule here is that the less values a man has, the longer this period will last.
Very often, representatives of the stronger sex find a solution to their problems in a new hobby. Often romance is started with young girls. In this case, the initiator of the male departure is the wife, who is unable to forgive the betrayal. In the overwhelming number of cases, after a few months, the young man gets bored with the passion, he returns to his wife. If there is a risk that this will not happen, and there is no desire to destroy the family, then:
- Be wise and keep quiet. A little later, when the emotions subside in both partners, you will be able to build a correct dialogue.
- Find an ally. The mother-in-law may also be suitable for this role, who most often takes the side of preserving the family, and not the young mistress.
- Try to get as much information as possible about your opponent. This will allow you to understand what led your spouse to her.
Male perspective
Representatives of the stronger sex explain their return by other reasons. First, there is an interest in how his ex-girlfriend lives. If nothing interesting happens in her life, then for several months the man again loses her from his field of vision. With the appearance of a new boyfriend, career growth, there is a feeling of inner indignation, a desire to renew the relationship.
If the couple has common children, the young man considers it natural to appear in the life of the ex. They defend their territory, protect children from the influence of other men at the expense of violating the mother's personal life.
Sometimes the reason for the renewal of a relationship is banal laziness. It is easier to build relationships with a past woman, since a lot has already been studied and passed through. Sometimes the impetus is intimacy, a feeling of longing and the lack of emotional support that was before.
